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Is this a bit brave?

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newroundhere · 30/07/2016 01:39

DS1 was born 3 days ago and we still need to agree a first name. Most of the names we like are quite traditional / conservative (James, Alexander, Benjamin, Adam, Thomas) and the middle name is definitely going to be Robert.

However, DH and I both randomly like the name Torben, which is of Danish origin - no family links, we just like it. We're worried that it's a bit unusual - will people know how to spell / pronounce it, does it sound a bit trendy, are we brave enough to go for something out of the ordinary...??

So, any thoughts on Torben? With Ben as the nickname? Thanks! Smile

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PaperdollCartoon · 30/07/2016 12:55

Really like it. For me brings Scottish names like Torquil to mind (which I also really like) though not surprised if there's some Celtic/Scandinavian name crossovers.

It's different without seeming different. Use it!

winchesterfan · 30/07/2016 12:51

Wibblywobblyjellyhead They can name him what they damn well want!

Torben is a lovely name, and Robert goes well as a middle name, it doesn't matter that it's 'almost' an anagram, how often will he have to tell people his first and middle name!

WibblyWobblyJellyHead · 30/07/2016 12:45

I like it. But you can't have Torben Robert. Sorry.

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torthecatlady · 30/07/2016 12:39

I really like it! Ben or Tor equally good for a nn Wink
See what he prefers as he grows up Smile

ThroughThickAndThin01 · 30/07/2016 12:37

I like it but prefer Tor to Ben as a shortening. Many Bens around from Benjamin and Benedict. If you are going for brave then be brave! He could always use Ben if he really feels he wants to.

mummytime · 30/07/2016 12:34

The only problem I have is if you use it with Robert - it would bug me as being an almost anagram.

SteviebunsBottrittrundle · 30/07/2016 11:35

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SteviebunsBottrittrundle · 30/07/2016 11:35

Lovely! If definitely go for it.

NiceCuppaTeaAndASitDown · 30/07/2016 10:24

That's the one!

user7755 · 30/07/2016 10:14

Aah yes, Tormund - thats him. Big hairy fella?

Sophronia · 30/07/2016 08:48

I think it's ok, I prefer the similar Torin though

CarlGrimesMissingEye · 30/07/2016 08:38

I think it's a great name.

ineedamoreadultieradult · 30/07/2016 08:37

I like it but I never understand people choosing the nickname. Surely nicknames are something that evolve naturally We have a Thomas we call him Thomas as that's the name we chose his Grandparents call him Tommy and his friends call him Tom. If you like Torben call him Torben and see what his nickname becomes it might be Ben but more likely Tor. Or it might be both. But if you name him Torben and call him Ben he will always be Ben and he might prefer Torben.

ExitPursuedByABear · 30/07/2016 08:37

I like it. Invent some Danish ancestry just for the fun of it.

MrsJoeyMaynard · 30/07/2016 08:31

Is it pronounced as it looks? Tor-Ben?

If so, I can't see many problems with spelling or pronunciation. It's unusual, at least in the UK, but if I met a Torben (or interviewed one), I'd assume some Scandinavian family links rather than parents picking an unusual name for the sake of being different.

SlinkyB · 30/07/2016 08:26

I like it! Be brave Smile

NiceCuppaTeaAndASitDown · 30/07/2016 08:25

user7755, I think you're thinking of Tormund. No Torben as far as I know, and I've read all the books and watched every episode.

I absolutely love the name, but with a surname of Roberts I don't think I would use it for anagram reasons - although it might be entertaining to see if people spot it or not!

TheVeryHungryDieter · 30/07/2016 08:22

I love Torben. I also love Scandi-drama, so it feels familiar to me.

And I live in London, so I don't see anything wrong with having a name that isn't classic British. Most people here are from just about anywhere and even a "Dave" you meet could be short for David or Davinder - it doesn't matter in the least. I know any number of small children with British accents and unusual names.

That said, I don't like my own ethnic name but that's just because it's Irish and extremely unpronounceable to just about everyone. Torben has no such problems. Simple and classic, just not obviously British.

HettyB · 30/07/2016 08:19

I love it. It's on my list for no2 but DH isn't keen. Also DD has a Scandi name and another one would definitely mean people assumed we are Scandinavian!
Use it for me!

user7755 · 30/07/2016 08:15

Isn't there a character on game of thrones called Torben?

PotOfYoghurt · 30/07/2016 08:12

It's very unusual that the majority of a baby names thread is positive, so trust that you've picked a good one Grin

neonrainbow · 30/07/2016 08:00

It's really not that out there. Your traditional choices are just a little bit boring. I like it.

SpecialAgentFreyPie · 30/07/2016 07:56

Well I have never, ever, ever liked a 'speshul' name or most regular ones but Torben is fab!

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newroundhere · 30/07/2016 07:36

No name is going to be universally popular but it doesn't sound like a weird choice Grin

Thanks for the reassurance! Think we just need to be brave....

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