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Surnames- husbands or my surname?

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DuckWaddle · 06/07/2016 22:20

I didn't take my husbands surname when we married and didn't double barrel it as they sounded ridiculous together!!
Our first dd has taken my husbands surname and I assumed I'd do the same for our second (currently pregnant) but I would like one child to share my name. I'm also uncomfortable with the convention that the man's name should always be used.
Just wondering what others have done if they have different names?

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Liz09 · 06/07/2016 22:28

My child will have my name, because I kept my surname when we got married and we both agreed that our children would also have my name.

The reason, for us, is simple. I'm the last person in my family who can pass on the name, and if I don't, it will die out at me. But, more importantly, my dad passed away when I was young and I would like to be able to pass on his name for that reason.

I would maybe be apprehensive in your situation because you already gave your first child his name, which means that they'll grow up with different surnames. Would you consider putting your surname as the middle name? I would just worry that your children may have to answer questions about why their names are different if their parents are the same... (That may never happen, though).

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DuckWaddle · 06/07/2016 22:28

Too late for that Herat!

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Heratnumber7 · 06/07/2016 22:26

I like tradition, and it's also more convenient for all the family to have the same name.