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Weird?

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Quasilulu · 03/05/2016 00:37

My friend is expecting her first baby, a girl. Her OH has 2 previous children. He eants to call them a combination of their names eg Michael and Kayla Michaela. Not that but hope you get my drift. My friend is wondering if this is weird or not. I personally think it is a bit. Your views?

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ABitAsleep · 10/05/2016 13:07

Stephanie and Melanie would be okay together, but having a Stephen and and Stephanie that closely related is just ridiculous.

It's like having a brother and sister called Oliver and Olivia. You just wouldn't do it. No. Confused

How about Stephanie as a middle name instead, and give the baby a unique name of her own, rather than one recycled from her brother and sister.

Ceilinglight · 06/05/2016 22:10

Combination of mine and DH's name:

Haya or Yasha

squoosh · 04/05/2016 11:13

Ugh, no. He's making it all about him and his existing children.

Oysterbabe · 04/05/2016 10:08

Renesme?

julfin · 04/05/2016 09:58

Oh sorry, just remembered it's your friend's child not yours. Scrap the Embert plan then. But she could try the equivalent!

julfin · 04/05/2016 09:51

Actually, as Gruffalo says, having Stephanie as a middle name would be a good solution (but only if you like it enough to use it as a middle name). Personally I think it's a pretty-sounding name with a lovely meaning. And it would be a nice tribute to the other children, without being weird.

Or you could suggest Embert and see if that makes him back down re Stephanie Wink

cosmicglittergirl · 04/05/2016 07:59

Made up names mean a life of spelling out and explaining.

TheTartOfAsgard · 04/05/2016 07:56

My friends Joe and Kayleigh combined their names and called their daughter Jolie. I think it's lovely when it works but Stephen/Stephanie is a step too far.

GruffaloPants · 04/05/2016 07:52

Not fair to have a Stephen and a Stephanie! Surely Stephen could feel pushed out, and Stephanie will feel like she wasn't important enough to have her own name.

Plus they could both end up being called Steph (I have a relative named Stephen with this nickname, and a colleague named Stephanie also called this).

They could have Stephanie as a middle name and tell people it was in tribute to the two older ones - that would be nice.

Oysterbabe · 04/05/2016 05:15

At least it's a real name. But agree with others- no.

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Quasilulu · 04/05/2016 00:36

Ha ha Julfin! Mine would be Embert! Awful!

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julfin · 03/05/2016 23:34

I agree it's weird.

Now that we've all agreed on that, please can we turn the conversation to what our children would be called if we combined our own names with our partners'? Mine would be Jett - which has a certain ring to it.

Stripedduvet · 03/05/2016 22:56

Stephanie is one of my top girls names.
But if I had a son called Stephen already I wouldn't call my daughter Stephanie. That's weird. Though I know a family with kids called Jack and Jackie!! Lot of people do these things!

AwfulBeryl · 03/05/2016 20:12

I love the name Stephanie, although that's completely irrelevant. I don't really like the idea of having children with similar sounding names and Stephanie is way too similar to Stephen.

elor11 · 03/05/2016 20:08

Very silly. Maybe would be nice as a middle. But come up with something yourself. Not a combination of his ex's fav names.

diddl · 03/05/2016 14:51

Maybe the siblings could choose a middle name to feel included?

1horatio · 03/05/2016 14:38

I think that's a bit odd... But we are going to use my mum's initial for the 2 middle names (the middle names will start with the same letter), so I'm probably not the one that should say this is riduculous Smile
As long as it's a real name it's ok imo.

LadyAntonella · 03/05/2016 14:05

I guess maybe he's trying to make his existing DCs feel included(?) which is understandable, but I don't think it's a great idea myself. I agree with pps re babies having their own identity. I know someone who was going to name their DS after their DD's favourite toy. Thankfully her favourite toy is a teddy bear so the DS would have been Teddy which is a nice name anyway. Could just have easily been My Little Pony Grin. They went with something else completely in the end.

GunShotResidue · 03/05/2016 13:49

I think it would be quite sweet as a middle name. DD has similar, a mix of her Grandmothers names (which is also a real name).

I love family names but would only use them as middle names. As a pp said, babies should have their own first name.

SerenityReynolds · 03/05/2016 13:45

Agreed it's a weird thing to do. The new baby is an individual in her own right. Not an amalgam of her half-siblings!

Arfarfanarf · 03/05/2016 13:41

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WhyCantIuseTheNameIWant · 03/05/2016 13:38

Stephenie in its own is quite sweet.

No way with Stephen though!

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Quasilulu · 03/05/2016 13:33

Thank you! I've shown her this and she's going to show her OH. She's also said I can share the names so Stephen Melanie and Stephanie...which she dislikes anyway. Sorry chap...You're outnumbered 😂

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OnceMoreIntoTheBleach · 03/05/2016 12:07

Horrible idea IMO on many levels as already stated by PP, but apart from all that, I personally think babies deserve their OWN name and identity.

We lost a significant family member when I was heavily pregnant with DS and lots of people asked if we would name him after that person. It was a resounding 'no'. I vetoed the idea of family names with both my DCs from the outset.

They are new people who deserve a name that is all theirs, IMO.

Each to their own though, of course.

HighDataUsage · 03/05/2016 11:55

Bit Jeremy Kyle style....