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Help - wife has already decided a name I don't like

35 replies

username999 · 21/04/2016 10:00

Hi,

My wife is 38 weeks pregnant and has become attached to a baby name I don't like. I've suggested that we should both have veto on the name ie. we need to find a name neither of us object to. She won't agree to this - she's picked the name on her own and that's it. She now refers to the baby by this name.

This is making me really upset. I wouldn't dream of calling our baby by a name she doesn't like. I really can't understand how she could enjoy calling the baby by a name that I object to.

We've had some marriage problems in the past and I now feel like my wife is more selfish than I ever realised. Feels like this could be the last straw.

I just want to ask if people can see it from her point of view? I don't think I'm being selfish am I? - I'm just asking for a name we both agree on

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Lweji · 21/04/2016 10:16

We also need some clarification on the names you like.

Are they, like on another thread, so cringing that the OP was advised to put her foot down and ignore her OH?

Seeyounearertime · 21/04/2016 10:10

What is the name?
Is it something you can shorten to something bmore agreeable?

Maybe suggest, as she's picked and is unmovable on the first, that you pick the middle?

Lweji · 21/04/2016 10:06

Is it awful?

witchofzog · 21/04/2016 10:06

Can you show her this thread?

Maroonie · 21/04/2016 10:06

I also should add that a friends partner did this and although it's not the name they would have picked, it grew on then and now couldn't imagine the child being called anything else.
Obviously if it's a really unusual names this might not work but it doesn't need to be the end of the world

witchofzog · 21/04/2016 10:05

Some people will probably come on here and say she has grown the baby inside her therefore she should choose etc. However I think it should be a name you both agree on. Especially as you actively dislike the name she has chosen. Why will she not compromise?

NNalreadyinuse · 21/04/2016 10:03

I agree with you that a name should be something both parents agree on, but your main priority here is to do something about the state of your marriage because you have both chosen to bring a child into a car crash of a relationship.

honeysucklejasmine · 21/04/2016 10:03

Not at all, it's very unfair on you.

I would be tempted to be a bit childish and start referring to the bump by a name she hates, but only for an hour or so, before having a more grown up conversation about how it makes you feel.

Maroonie · 21/04/2016 10:02

I think you should both like the name, ask how she would feel if you picked a name she didn't like and just used it?
It Does sound like a symptom of a bigger problem though

BendydickCuminsnatch · 21/04/2016 10:01

Er no, she is being entirely unreasonable!

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