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Ex wants daughter to have an African name

55 replies

Jade7392 · 29/02/2016 10:04

Me and my ex are very much separated but trying to remain civil for babies sake and still talking and planning that side of things. I'm 30 weeks with a girl.

Originally I liked the names Lily, Emily and Rosie he liked the names Naveah and Paris neither I was keen on. He said that he didn't want an all English sounding name like Emily and lily for the baby. In the end we agreed on Nalah which is an Arabic variation on the African Nala.

I wanted her middle name to be Elizabeth after my great nan but he doesn't like it and wants her to have his mums name as her middle name which is Atinuke. He is Nigerian. He also wants her to have his second name which is a very African sounding one.

So her name will sound very different and African which will contrast my other children's name which are Austin and Liam Brown.

Am I being unreasonable or harsh if I tell him I don't want her to have that middle name?

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CorBlimeyTrousers · 29/02/2016 10:19

Yes he doesn't seem to be compromising much does he! What surname do you want her to have? Is your own surname the same as her brothers or her father? I definitely think you should have name(s) that mean something to you as part of her name.

Katarzyna79 · 29/02/2016 10:15

if he can't compromise i'd pick name myself because you are separated and you are carrying the baby, you will do the labour and primary care. i'd be angry don't need this bother, what a petty man!

Whatthefreakinwhatnow · 29/02/2016 10:08

My DD has my surname, not her fathers, as we weren't together when she was born. He wa fine with it, but to be honest I wouldn't care if he wasn't.

I think it's I for your daughter to share her name with her brothers, so she doesn't feel different from them.

As for the middle name, again I would just use what I wanted Blush

ATailofTwoKitties · 29/02/2016 10:07

Nalah Elizabeth or Rosie Antinuke sound a nice mix, but I'd give her your surname and sod him.

ATailofTwoKitties · 29/02/2016 10:05

So his idea of a compromise is that he has all the say and you have none, whilst doing all the work?

You're separated.

I can see why.