Let the young ones choose?!

I like your choices better. When I was growing up it was much nicer knowing my Mum and Dad chose my name and not my big brother. Feels like you are setting the youngest sibling up to be a second class citizen if the older ones get to decide.

I wouldn't. My sister named me and then proceeded to remind me of it all the time. We didn't get on particularly well as children which probably didn't help. My parents would also tell the tale of how she chose the name, whereas they had chosen her name.

I dropped the name in childhood, have legally changed it now too. Not just because of that but it was a factor. She seemed to feel it gave her some power over me.

You could comprise and use it as a middle name but I wouldn't use it as a first name unless it was clear to them that you already had planned to and it is a happy coincidence that they like it too (which did happen with ds).

Fwiw I think Sophie is a gorgeous name :) if my son had been allowed to name his baby sister she would have been "Liz" - doesn't sound too bad til he explained it was short for "Lizard"...

Personally, I'd go with it. I think it is lovely to let the older children name their sibling, and lovely to tell baby about when she is older!

But that's just me. There would be nothing wrong with choosing a name you love and just explaining to your children that baby's name is Matilda, not Sophie.

Name the baby, not make!

Is there any way you could use Sophie as a middle name if you're keen for your children to help make the baby? At 2/3 though, they'll soon get used to the baby's new/real name, so don't put too much pressure on yourself to please them!

Tricky.

DD1 has suggested the name Edith for the baby I'm having (we don't know the gender) and whilst I don't "love" it, it was the name of one of my Great Grandmas, whom I adored and was very close to and only died recently at the grand old age of 98! I've always referred to her as "Grandma Surname" so DD had no idea it was a family members name, nor do we know anyone called Edith. DD has mentioned it many times over the weeks.

Whilst its not a definite name, its on our Top 3 and DH really loves it, so its definitely a contender.