So, I am a few years off from having kids, but, I'm having quite the problem with my lists.
I love the name Betty, and have done for quite a while now. The only thing is, my best friend of four years, who I usually take my name lists to and discuss names with first, is very upset with me and mad at me for wanting to use it. Her grandmother, who passed away when she was 12 (she's now almost 23) was named Elizabeth but went by Betty and Bet, and for about two years now, she's actually called me insensitive, disrespectful, heartless, and tried to talk me out of using it, because of this. I do love Betsy, but she still thinks that it's close to Betty and bordering on disrespectful, and she loathes Bessie, so I sort of gave up the fight.
I mentioned this all the other day and asked her if like, she was ok about it now, and she said yes, and that she didn't remember calling me anything the previous times I mentioned it, and apologised. Then, today, during a fight about how I feel that she disrespects my feelings and my name lists and everything, she said that she was lying then because it was what I wanted to hear (apparently), and again, that I'm disrespectful.
So, then I opened my mouth and said "well she wasn't my grandmother...", and apparently now I'm heartless, disrespectful, and about 19 other things. I'm still confused though...
This is my best friend who's opinion I do usually value highly. She's calling me heartless and disrespectful, but I really don't know how I am? Her grandmother died long before she and I met, and I've always found the name Betty cute, but I feel like I'm being controlled at the moment. I didn't mean to disrespect her with what I said, but I am seriously frustrated by the fact that she is so quick to call me things like that over a name, when, if she were to use Bonnie or Valerie (my grandmothers), I wouldn't have a problem at all.
Am I really being disrespectful and heartless because I want to use the name Betty, or is she being irrational?