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Still not happy with name

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LuckymummaOf2 · 14/07/2015 16:50

Hello,
I have posted a few times and keep thinking I am ok, but I am still not used to DD name and she is 6 months. I have good days and feel ok but this doubt comes back. I have tried hypnotherapy to get rid of the anxiety and seen the doc and councillor incase it's just anxiety fixing on this - but I feel fine otherwise so not sure this is the case.
I am not 100% on an alternative either, so worry about changing it too. It's eating me up feeling so unsure. I feel unconfident using her name and she deserves a name I truly love. Her name is violet and I also sorry and have read that people hear 'violent' as the words are close which I never realised prior to namingf her. Really not sure ho to overcome this.

Any advice gratefully received.
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Thatsnotmybabyname · 14/07/2015 18:24

Perhaps not helpful but I also think Violet is a beautiful name and I would never have made the violent connection. I think if you don't have another alternative you could just try to use a nickname you prefer on a day to day basis - Vivie, Lettie...?

5YearsTime · 14/07/2015 18:16

It's a fabulous name.

I have absolutely no expertise but it sounds like a post natal anxiety thing which means you are fixated on this but it's not actually the real issue?

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LuckymummaOf2 · 14/07/2015 17:09

Thanks for the kind comments, they are nice to read.
I loved the name during pregnancy but since she's been born its never seemed to feel quite right. I initiallybrushed off my concerns but I'm still not happy. Problem is I really don't feel set on anything else either. Every now and then I think, xxx ah yes that's definitely the right name, then i change my mind again. I worry I will always feel like this and never be happy.
I do sometimes use a nickname but I feel I am just avoiding the issue then.

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Moodyblue1 · 14/07/2015 17:02

I'm sorry you feel this way, it can't be easy and it sounds like it's getting you down a lot. Is your partner supportive, what do they think of the name? Can you think back to why you chose it in the first place, did you settle because you couldn't think of something else or did you love it and have since changed your mind?

For what it's worth, Violet is an absolutely beautiful name, I would never think of violent at all. It's very pretty and I know one little Violet and she's adorable.

FixItUpChappie · 14/07/2015 17:02

Sorry your feeling low about this OP. I have secret wobbling on my DS2's name and he is 2 year old! However, I try to remember that we chose the name out of love and that it is a part of who he is now....and of course there is nothing wrong with his name whatsoever. For me there were so many choices - I am always thinking ooh that one's nice - I didn't consider that. Weird but true.

I know a Violet and she is a lovely little thing. Its a perfectly nice name and she will grow into it. Do you have a little nickname you can call her? That might help you feel more connected to it.

Yika · 14/07/2015 17:01

Do you have some ohter names you like? How about calling her Violet + other name for a while? You could try a week of each for a while until you find one that you feel comfortable with - that way you are still using her given name while testing out other ones - so a week of 'Violet Mary', a week of 'Violet Amelia' etc.

Then can you add it as a middle name formally and start using it day to day, and slowly drop the Violet?

Violet is a pretty name though not to my taste. You don't have to keep it though.

BrowersBlues · 14/07/2015 16:58

What name would you like to call her?

Sallyhasleftthebuilding · 14/07/2015 16:58

Could you use Lottie as a short version? Nothing against ... but might make u feel happier

paxtecum · 14/07/2015 16:58

Violet is a beautiful name.

There is always a nasty nickname with any name that you choose.
For example
Stroppy Poppy
Smelly Ellie
Contrary Mary
Mad Maddy
Fatty Matty
etc and etc.

CherryBonBon · 14/07/2015 16:53

Ah you poor thing. Thanks

Violet is a really beautiful name. If I had a DD now it would be on the list.

And the violent comparisons are frankly idiotic.

Presumably you chose it in the first place because you like it? Well that us all that matters. The stupid opinions of strangers really really really don't.