Still not happy with name

Peachypips. I also haven't got girls but Violet would have been high up on my list too. I have always loved it.

Violet is a fab name! I think she will love it as she gets older and be very very pleased that you called her that. Great name for any age with some nice shortened names like Vivi and Lettie.

Hi,
I work in maternal mental health and it is common with post natal anxiety to fixate on the baby's name. It happens a lot funnily enough! Other common fixations are the baby's sleep patterns, feeding and if you are stimulating them enough.
It may help to look at it objectively- is Violet a name that you love? Did you love it before birth? If so, stick with it. Alternatively think of a nickname you can use until the anxiety passes. Another option is to decide you are not allowed to change it as it's too late. Then work on accepting it.
Personally Violet is one of my favourite names. I didn't have a girl, but if I had then Violet Elizabeth would have been on my list.

It's beautiful name. Please stop beating yourself up! It seems as though the more you fixate the more unsure you are. If in 6 months no other name has presented itself as more "right" then changing it probably wouldn't make you feel better. You may end up feeling just as doubtful about a new name. I think you chose a wonderful name. Classic but unusual. Just accept that that it your daughter's name. Don't second guess yourself. If you'd wanted to change it enough you would have by now. Also Dave Grohl's little girl's name - don't know if that helps you but it would me :)

Could you start to pronounce it Vio-LETTE? Maybe consider changing the spelling whenever you write it, and then if you feel happier with that pronunciation (because it doesn't sound like "violent" any more), change it officially by deed poll to add the extra couple of letters?

I adore my 11 month's old name but still I very rarely actually use it. I generally refer to him by any one of a huge variety of prt names ranging from the traditional "darling" and lots of Irish language terms of endearment,, to the cutesy "Curly Bubb", to the ridiculous "Mr Smelly Pants"... And I realise when I introduce him to people, I tend to say "this is Baby [Name]" rather than just using his name on his own. So just because you are not formally addressing her as Violet all day doesn't mean you are in any way unusual.

I hope I don't offend on this but unlike other posters, I do think it is a huge deal to change a child's name. To me, yes of course ypu get to pick your child's name but this is more a duty you have as a parent to give him/her a name. I find it unusual to read on here that people change their baby's name months and years later. I think it is your name to pick when born as the child doesn't have one yet, but then it is no longer your name to change after that. I don't think I'd like to find out that I had been called something different for the early part of my life and then my parents changed it to my current name just "because". It would feel like I was their possession rather than an individual.

I had this wobble with my daughter. She is Francesca and I can remember being in a lift with her when she was about 6 weeks old, she was howling and my mum was shushing her any saying "there there Francesca" into the pram & I suddenly thought "what have I done?" I hated the sound of it. I was embarrassed that other people would think I was pretentious and judge me etc etc. I wept all the way home and for about 3 weeks. My mum was furious as she loved the name but my husband agreed we could change it if I found a name I loved. I didn't find it! Three years later we had child2 & thank heavens he was a boy as there was no girls name.I liked as much as.Francesca!! Violet is beautiful op. I've taught for nearly 30 years and never taught a violet! It's amazing.

How about Gracie? Know a lovely little girl with the name. You wouldn't need to legally change anything either.

Do you like any shortenings of the name? Letty?

My daughter has a strong,unusual name and I love it But I had a feeling of it being uncomfortable to say for a while. It is definitely right for her,I just had to get used to it. She is 4now and suits it completely.
I have a boring common name my mum changed from a far more interesting one.

Does Violet have a middle name?

Violet is a lovely name, and would have been my girls name had I hadn't had all boys!!
Look at different nicknames such as Vi or Lottie and see if you feel any happier with them.

When DD turned 6 months I told myself I wasn't going to change her name after that long. I thought that making that decision would take away the anxiety but two months later I'm still thinking about it daily.

I have another name I like but I'm not 100% sure about it. I'm afraid I'll change it and then feel the same about the new name. But I told my husband tonight that I think we have to change it as it's affecting me so badly. I call my DD 'she'/'her' all the time to avoid using her name as it sounds so wrong to me.

It's a name I really like.

If you had a name in mind that you really wished you had called her, I'd say to go ahead and change it if you are really not happy with Violet.

BTW, I should add. The reason it took me until 11 months to do was a combination of resistance from dh (I finally persuaded him I was serious!) and having no alternative (like you).

I took my time and was very logical in my choice second time around. I wrote a list of my 'name requirements' (e.g. does't rhyme with surname) and then compiled a list of all names that met those requirements! I didn't totally love the new name to be honest, I just knew it was logically good (unlike old name which I felt far TOO emotional about!), and now I am really really happy with it.

I changed my baby's name at 11months after 6 or 7 months of extreme anxiety over it.

It was one of the best decisions I ever made. I felt relief straight away and am so much happier with the new name now (years later).

It was easy to do, no one batted an eyelid and no one mentions it now.

Maybe it is PND, maybe it is not. It doesn't really matter. It is very easy to change and your daughter won't notice!

Violet is a beautiful name ( one of my girls has this as a middle name), another Violet I know is called Vivi which I think is gorgeous too, would a nickname help? If it helps, my dd4 is 20 months and I'm still unsure on her name, I love the name but it just doesn't fit her if you know what I mean, we call her a nickname..

It an absolute beautiful name.

I too have been in your position and so do understand how you might be feeling. I registered DD name but never felt 100% happy about it or in fact any other name that I was considering at the time. I do suffer from anxiety and looking back, think that I had a bad case of the baby blues, which made my anxiety even worse. My DD's name was all I could think about day and night and it really ate away at me. I felt so depressed and felt that I had let my beautiful DD down :-(
In the end, we did end up changing her name and I felt so much more happier at the time and still am. However, when I now think of the original name, I don't dislike it as much as I thought I did and do feel that my anxiety issues and post pregnancy hormones did make me feel so much more worse about things.
I have just had my second DD and we are about to register her tomorrow. This time around I felt so much calmer and naming her has been so easy. Pregnancy hormones have got so much to answer for in my case. I hope you start to feel better about things soon OP

I am in exactly the same situation, except my DD is 8 months old. I've felt like this since she was a few weeks old and keep thinking it will get better but it just doesn't.

My dh thinks it's a post-natal anxiety issue and I'm just fixating on the name when it isn't really the issue. Which may be true, but doesn't help.

I'm not sure what I'm going to do, but you have my sympathies! It may seem like a little thing to a lot of people, but I know how much it can consume your thoughts. Fingers crossed we both feel happier one way or another soon.

I love that name. Beautiful, underused and timeless.

Pfft to the violent comparisons.

So sorry you're feeling this way. Agree that a nick name might help. Vi, Lettie, Lottie (oo err, remembering recent thread about Violet nick name Lottie Fireworks!)
More extreme course would be to change it. Viola or something similar?