I need an opinion on a name

Jasper is nice, I prefer it to Geoffrey. Tell them you have gone back to the drawing board and you'll see what suits him best when he arrives to get them off your backs... then just call him Jasper.

I mentioned it earlier Bike, I wonder where its derived from?

We generally call them 'wobblers' as in 'look out, there's a wobbler'. But MIL used to call them jaspers

Lol Bike no, I know it's a nn for wasps. I just like the name anyway.

Am I the only person who thinks its slang for wasp?

My MIL ruined our top choice girl's name. I think it's best not to announce a name until the baby arrives so there's less chance of someone spoiling it.

It's lovely and more importantly, it's what you want, so don't worry about what anyone else thinks.

You're grown adults and its your right as parents.

Moral of the story - don't discuss names with others!

There's nothing wrong with the name Jasper.

It's not like you want to use something ridiculous or out there. Those sort of comments you can and should discount. They'll stop when you officially announce after the baby's born, or you'll have to have strong words with them/him

Actually as soon as I'd posted I remembered that my dear old MIL used to call wasps 'jaspers', no idea why....

Personally I don't like it. Maybe because my cousin had a dog called Jasper when we were kids. But that's beside the point. If you and your partner like it, then use it. My husband and I haven't told anyone the potential names for DS due next week precisely because I don't want any family or friend opinions on them. Just don't mention the name again until he's born and introduce him as Jasper. It's unlikely that faced with a beautiful new baby, your families are going to be critical or disparaging about his name. And even if they are, it's too late to do anything.

I don't know one single Jasper in RL.

Infact I think I've only ever heard the name as one of the baddies from 101 Dalmations film. That's my sole knowledge of it.

You go with the names you like OP. My DS2 is called Max, my grandma was very sniffy & said that its a dog's name. I gave her my best silent stare. He's 5 now & he's totally a Max, he couldn't possibly be anything else & very occasionally we come across dogs called Max but it matters not the tiniest fuck. He is more entranced seeing his name on road signs, max speed etc :)

You go with Jasper. Or find a really dreadful name, tell then you're calling him Caspar or Frank or Alan or Brian or Franz, then once he's born & you announce him as little Jasper then they will be so relieved they won't say another word

I do think of it as a dogs name first (my much loved and missed great aunt had a dog called Jasper) but I would still consider it for a DS too. I would go for it!

'It's a great shame you don't like the name we have decided on. We were really hoping that Jasper would have a close relationship with all his grandparents and great-grandparents - I hope we don't have to end up shielding him from such rude comments within the family by keeping more of a distance...'

Stick to your guns, for three reasons:

1. It's a great name.
2. Even if you wanted to call him Bobby Doo Dah Doo, it's YOUR DECISION.
3. Use this situation to make it 100% clear to the senior members of the family that your child = YOUR DECISIONS. Back down on this, and the grandparents will take it as a green light to tell you what else you're doing wrong too... And that way lies a LOT of heartache. Do everyone a favour and put up those boundaries NOW.

DD, not dc! I should hope it's a dc!!

tolive exactly. If someone asks me what names we are thinking of for our baby I might tell them. But I'm certainly not inviting nor interested in their opinion of them. If my baby is a dc I want to use my deceased aunt's name as a middle name - I asked my cousins (her children) if they were ok with that which they were, more than actually. But other than that, sod it. Our baby, our name choice. The end.

We had a name spoiled for us. But we had a boy in the end so poppy was not going to work.

Jasper is a nice name. They can suck it up.

My mum never liked my nephews name but now she does and nobody could imagine him being anything else.

I like it!
MIL didn't think much of ds1's name when we announced it, I think it's grown on her now. DH and I however love the name and that's really all that matters!

It's an uncommon name but nothing wrong with it...not my cuppa tea, but it's not my baby either!

It's absolutely fine. Don't listen to your interfering relatives. It's your baby, you get to choose the name.

It is your child and your decision, ignore nasty comments.

We kept our names secret until after the birth of our children, then it's too late for others to give opinions they have to accept your choice.

It's not about the name, though, is it? It's about the fact that your family seems to believe their preference is relevant and that you should defer to it for some reason.

Disabuse them of that notion and the problem is solved

It's a gorgeous name.

disclaimer: I have a Jasper and he loves his name

I don't like the name either but I wouldn't dream of passing comment though. My dd is Molly. You may not like that. Just a variAtion of opinions

Sod your mother.

Jasper is a nice name. It's your child - you get to pick his name.

Geoffrey?