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Help! Picked my name but a friend may use it first!

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yummymango · 20/05/2015 20:45

I have chosen Violet for DD2. I had my heart set on it, we don't know any Violets and it goes nicely with our surname. I picked it even before I was pregnant! Unfortunately I have found out that someone I know quite well is considering Violet for her newborn DD. I am gutted! I have searched through hundreds of names but can't find anything I like as much. Any suggestions please? I don't want something popular and I don't generally like masculine names or names ending in ella or illy. Thank you!

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Edna1969 · 20/05/2015 20:56

There's no copywright on names. Friends independetly picked the same first and second names which we used for our DD1! Our DD is older than theirs so we went first and were unaware of our friends preferences. When we found out we all agreed that we had excellent taste and that it wouldn't matter to anyone if the girls shared names. So we both have beautiful DDs with the same name. Everyone is happy.

DinkyDye · 20/05/2015 20:53

Just use it. Two of my cousins called their ds the same first AND middle name and two friends have same name ds a week apart in age.

I'd be pissed if someone took my name but l'd definitely want to call my dc the name l loved.

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yummymango · 20/05/2015 20:50

I have mentioned it to her since I found out she is considering it. But I don't own it, so what can I do? I don't think I could call my baby Violet if she uses it though, it takes something away from it for me. I was thinking if I could have a couple of backups that I liked as much maybe I wouldn't mind so much :)

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ThroughThickAndThin01 · 20/05/2015 20:48

I'd just use it, rather than use a name I didn't want.

Allthatnonsense · 20/05/2015 20:48

Use Violet. Explain that your heart is set on if and that you will still use it if she does.

Put the ball in her court. If she uses it in the full knowledge that you will, she cannot complain.

Chubbychopsmolly · 20/05/2015 20:48

I would drop it into the convo that you have picked violet Ms then ask them what they are thinking of so your basically making them aware not to pick it

Roseformeplease · 20/05/2015 20:47

Viola. Lovely, similar, and from Shakespeare.