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Help! Picked my name but a friend may use it first!

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yummymango · 20/05/2015 20:45

I have chosen Violet for DD2. I had my heart set on it, we don't know any Violets and it goes nicely with our surname. I picked it even before I was pregnant! Unfortunately I have found out that someone I know quite well is considering Violet for her newborn DD. I am gutted! I have searched through hundreds of names but can't find anything I like as much. Any suggestions please? I don't want something popular and I don't generally like masculine names or names ending in ella or illy. Thank you!

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SpamAnderson · 24/05/2015 15:09

Use the name you love, you won't regret choosing a name you love but you probably will regret not using it if that makes sense? like someone else said, friendships don't always last forever you your daughter will be your daughter forever :)

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yummymango · 22/05/2015 14:59

MamehaSan Thanks, I can totally see how once I have been in labour and see my baby all these worries will probably seem fairly trivial! :)

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MamehaSan · 22/05/2015 11:11

My advice: if you love the name, use it!

We were in a very similar situation with DS1. We had a short list of names, but the only thing holding me back from going with our favourite was that one of my old school buddies had recently given her new son the same name. Similar to you, we are in touch but live a fair distance apart and tend to meet up a couple of times a year.

I agonised over it for ages. Then, I went into premature labour and got wheeled off at high speed for an emergency cs. As I was coming round from the GA in recovery, DH handed me my new baby. Suddenly, none of the guff about using the same name as our friend mattered.

Our little son deserved our favourite name, and that's what he's got!

(fwiw, our friends were delighted with our choice, they reckon we've got good taste Grin )

MerryMarigold · 22/05/2015 10:55

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TandemFlux · 22/05/2015 02:33

Violetta is Italian I think

FatWalda · 22/05/2015 00:26

prepperpig If you think my way of pronouncing Viola (similar to Violet) is like the word 'vile', then it follows that you think Violet also sounds like vile. But hey, I'm not a lover of flower names anyway so I wouldn't be choosing either of them.

BertrandRussell · 21/05/2015 23:33

Get busy- even if it doubles in popularity, that's still only one in every 250 baby girls!

2boys2girls · 21/05/2015 22:38

Omg not another violet ... Its so popular

ScrambledEggAndToast · 21/05/2015 22:34

This is such a MN thing worrying about calling your child the same name as your friend's child! This wouldn't bother me at all, it's not 'your' name and equally it's not your friend's name. If you like it then just go for it.

TandemFlux · 21/05/2015 22:07

Greta
Valentina

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yummymango · 21/05/2015 20:44

Thanks for everyone's comments - sorry haven't been on all day.

MerryMarigold yes I am pg, due August with a girl, number 2. We picked an italian name for dd1, we love it and don't often meet anyone with the same name (except in Italy where it's a popular one - but as we don't live there it doesn't matter).

I must say I am disappointed to hear how popular Violet it is! By the way I love parma violets, and violet creams and this only adds to why I love the name. It exists in my family too a couple of generations ago.

Thanks for all the suggestions, some lovely names but I don't think I've seen the one just yet :)

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getbusyliving · 21/05/2015 20:43

Bertrand the stats haven't been released yet for 2014 so people are talking about all the brand new little Violets. In the other baby thread 'name the last 3 girls born' Violet was mentioned often enough to suggest it has jumped from its 78th placing in 2013... will be interesting to see

Zzzsnatcher · 21/05/2015 20:17

Maybe they all born in my area lol

LemonYellowSun · 21/05/2015 20:14

Violet is really popular. It was my great grandmothers name and she was only ever know as Vi.

If your friend doesn't live near you I wouldn't worry too much , but I would joke with her beforehand that you will be using it so she better expect it Wink

BertrandRussell · 21/05/2015 20:06

I really don't understand this popular thing. There were 703 baby girls called Violet born last year- that's one in every 517 baby girls. How does that possibly equate to "popular"?

Indantherene · 21/05/2015 20:06

Colleague had a baby Violet last week :)

prepperpig · 21/05/2015 19:59

What I meant is you are going to get vee OH la, vi OH la and VI oh la

Zzzsnatcher · 21/05/2015 19:56

If you don't want popular then don't choose Violet. Really popular here

MerryMarigold · 21/05/2015 19:55

Surly no one would pronounce viola the name the same way as the instrument Confused

prepperpig · 21/05/2015 19:54

Viane is pretty

prepperpig · 21/05/2015 19:52

Fatwalda pronouncing Viola which is both a real name and the name of an instrument differently to the way it is actually pronounced is going to result in a lifetime of correcting people and is a bit odd. Plus its then like the word vile.

Viola is a good alternative though.

MerryMarigold · 21/05/2015 19:51

Are you pg, op? Or is this in car you have a dd2?! Some lovely suggestions. I love Vivienne

SaltySeaBird · 21/05/2015 19:46

I liked the name too but my sister kept saying it was close to Violent which put me off. I think it's a pretty name personally.

TandemFlux · 21/05/2015 19:44

Charlotte with Lottie as nick name?