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Middle names - 1 for first child & 2 for second - DH thinks it's a bit unfair, do you?

31 replies

johendy · 28/04/2015 08:59

My first child, DS has 1 middle name - his paternal grandfather's. My second child, DD had just arrived and we're thinking about giving her 2 - her maternal grandmothers and an NZ Maori name meaning love (I'm from NZ, DH is English). In hindsight I wish I'd given DS a Maori middle name too, but it just didn't occur to us at the time.

DH thinks it's not fair on DS to have 1 less middle name. What do others think?

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elQuintoConyo · 28/04/2015 09:15

I have one, DSis has two. I couldn't give a stuff. Except hers are 'ordinary' 1970s, mine is ATROCIOUS 1970s Grin obviously I'm more popular at 'what's your middle name' type parties GrinGrin

ShadowSteam · 28/04/2015 09:11

I think whether it's an issue will depend on what the children are like when they're older.

I have one friend - eldest child- who has no middle name. Her younger brother has a middle name. When this came up in conversation, it was clearly a sore subject for her, and she thinks its some sort of evidence that her parents favour her brother more than her. I think there's probably a whole lot of other stuff going on with her and her family under the surface that's made her feel less favoured, but the middle name thing hasn't helped.

So anyway, I'd be inclined to give each child the same number of middle names.

cosytoaster · 28/04/2015 09:08

My eldest DS has two middle names (I used up all the names I liked as I was sure I would never put myself through childbirth again Grin), youngest DS just has one - they are in their teens now and it has never been an issue

Nolim · 28/04/2015 09:06

I think having 2 middle names is too much. But it is a matter of preference not fairness.

Bluestocking · 28/04/2015 09:06

I have two middle names, my sisters only have one. We fought about everything you can imagine for our entire childhood and adolescence but I can honestly say that the number of middle names never even occurred to us. I think you're safe.

Joyfulldeathsquad · 28/04/2015 09:01

I honestly think its a non issue. DP has no middle name at all yet his brother has his dads name. It's not an issue for him.