Middle names - 1 for first child & 2 for second - DH thinks it's a bit unfair, do you?

Think you should just stick to one and then let both decide on another when old enough to do so

Don't worry too much about it OP.

Saying that, my DC1 has two. DH hated this and would only allow DC2 1. According to my DH , I 'saddled' DC1 with two middle names that's too much of a mouthful to say and too 'posh'.

I do still feel, at times , WTAF ( that's to my DH and to letting him have his way) but really it's no big deal DC2 the one middle name.

I do regret it but don't dwell on it. In fact, I rarely, if ever, think about it now.

I remember also DH Father asking what DC1 middle names were when we named him and his response was ' poor bugger'. That's another WTAF but that's an entirely different story

I could have wept at the time though as they are just Strong and traditional names but v meaningful as they are Grandparents and Great Grandparents names.

I really wouldn't worry over it OP - I'm sure the names are just fine :)

I have one middle name & my DB has two. As a child I was insanely jealous of this, despite the fact that his extra name was a spectacularly ugly family name. DB refused to use it for his own DS, insisting it be allowed to die out.

I've been scrupulously fair with my own DC, who all have one middle name.

I don't have a middle name and it's never bothered me. It's easier for forms and suits my no-nonsense approach to life. What are they for anyway? My sisters do have middle names but I don't think they feel any better for it.

One of my sisters has two middle names, myself and other sister only have one. It was/is a complete non-issue, except for mild teasing of my parents about who was obviously the favourite

My sister gave her first child two middle names, the second one middle name and the third none. They've all made it to adulthood without killing each other over it, so I guess there were no resentments.

Sounds like a plan OP. Glad we could help

elQuinto tee hee! I'm sure that it will make a comeback in the next wave of baby names. We all think Mabel and Sidney are normal names now. Yours will have its 2nd day in the sun I'm sure!!

My eldest two don't have middle names but my youngest does. It doesn't bother the elder two at all.

It's a non issue.

Ds1 has one. Ds2 and ds3 have two. They are teenagers. They haven't even noticed the difference. If they do, not one of them will care.

I have three! Yes three middle names!

DM confessed recently she wished shed just gone for two as it was too much on forms. I found this odd as I never found it a problem. For instance bank card just has three initials then surname.

The middle name issue is a non issue. What kind of lad is he? If he's chilled out it won't bother him.
Dd1 is non competitive but needs everything to be fair. She likes that dd2 has two middle names like her, that sound similar. He also thinks its fair they each have the same amount of letters!

Me and one of my sisters have two middle names, but my eldest sister and brother only have one. It's never been an issue. Except that having two middle names is a bit of a pain as forms, bank cards etc only ever have room for one, which I find really annoying as my name looks all wrong with only one initial in the middle.

Having said that given the symbolism of your dd's extra name I'd look to picking one for ds too and either deed polling or informally giving it to him.

We decided to add a middle name to our first child's name aged nearly three abd I'm very happy I did, so I agree you could add one to your son's name, if he is big enough let him have a say in which one? X

I have two (love it!) and my siblings only have 1 each, has never come up as an issue at all. Unless they are raging bitterly behind my back.

My DM has always been upset that she didn't have a middle name at all though, when both her brothers got one. Think that's a whole other issue really though.

Jimmy think actress/Blankety-Blank regular who advertised Luton Airport classy

I think it's fine, although when my brother was born I was insanely jealous that he had two middle names and I only had one... what were his?: Alex Ander ! In my defence I wasn't quite three

Depends whether your DCs are competitive / have sibling rivalry (and of course you won't know that until they grow up a bit).

Mine are teens and have always been massively competitive with each other. They still even argue about whose turn it is to go in the front of the car every morning! If I'd have given one of them fewer middle names than the other, I would never hear the end of it!!

I second other people's suggestion of giving your older DC a Maori middle name. You could even make it part of the baby-naming ceremony (if you're planning on doing that) which would make him feel special at the same time.

DD has 1, younger DS has 2 simply because we decided to give him one of DH's Middle names at the last minute, an unusual one that meant a lot to FIL. DD has never been in the least bit concerned, partly I think because she knows her middle name is a tradition on my side so she got a "family" name too.

If one name is far more meaningful than the name given to another child i can see why it might rankle a little.

my youngest sibling had 2 middle names (parents could not agree). Rest of us had 1. Never caused any issues.

xposted with Jimmy while sniggering about Danger :)

Though you don't need deed poll, you could just pick one and use it.
I (and I guess many others raised Roman Catholic) have a second middle name that I was given at confirmation age 11. It's obviously not on my birth certificate and I never officially added it, but I still think of it as part of my full name.

My grandad always felt left out he didn't have a middle name and his brother did, obviously he told me this when he was old so it had clearly been an issue for him a very long time.
Can you get DS to choose an unofficial Maori name as PP suggested? Apart from official documents you don't use middle names anyway, and sometimes they only want the first one

Why not give your DS1 a Maori middle name too? If he's old enough, he could be involved in the choice.

www.deedpoll.org.uk/AddingAMiddleName.html
("Every week, we issue at least one Deed Poll to someone who makes Danger their middle name" made me laugh.)

Oh, and elQuinto you must tell us what your middle name is now!

Can you give a Maori name to your Ds too? Maybe he could help choose it. Disclaimer - I have no idea of the legalities surrounding this!