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No one likes my child's name!!

88 replies

ButtonMoon88 · 23/04/2015 22:53

Hello I gave birth to my first child in January, a little girl. My partner and I decided on the name Jeane (Jean) after my grandma, and also because we just liked it and it suits us and her. Our immediate family love it, but there have been a few sarky comments from people and it's so hurtful. Not only does she share the name with a wonderfully strong woman, she completely carries the name off herself so why do people feel the need to comment?

Has anyone experienced nasty comments about names and how do you deal with it? Please don't bother to comment if you are going to say something unpleasant that isn't the point of my thread! Thank you

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ButtonMoon88 · 23/04/2015 23:56

I must admit italiangreyhound has given me a different perspective to consider, we don't agree and I suppose we don't have to. I just find it so bizarre that people out rightly say to us eurgh! I work with children and families and have heard a huge variety of names but I would never comment if I disliked a name!!

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Joyfulldeathsquad · 23/04/2015 23:55

It's lovely and it really nice with the family connection.

If I have a DS next he will be called Arnold (arnie for short) after my grandad who was an amazing father figure to me.

The next time any one says anything say "excuse me - she is named after my grandma who was a wonderful woman" I'm sure they will STFU then !

pnutter · 23/04/2015 23:50

I was ready to be nice even if it was totally not my thing...but I love it ! Sounds like a strong name . Very feminine and strong. Families are so weird !!

FATEdestiny · 23/04/2015 23:48

There's a Betty in my DD's class. She is the coolest girl I know!

griselda101 · 23/04/2015 23:45

as your DD gets older it will fit her more and more and probably seem much more appropriate and suitable, even to the doubters. They may even change their minds especially as they see her personality develop. They will start to associate the name with the fab little girl who it belongs to, and forget their preconceptions based on people they once knew a couple of decades ago.

Wotsitsareafterme · 23/04/2015 23:45

Op I love jeane it's classy and a bit cool and retro in a great way and difficult to shorten or turn into another name. I love my dd's name but I did better with dd1 than dd2. Dd2 has a very girly name.....which toddlers cannot pronounce and therefore she has answered to Eddie since birth. Sigh

CaminanteNoHayCamino · 23/04/2015 23:41

That was DP's mum's second name and the one she was known by. You love it, and that's all that matters. My mother didn't like dd's name when she first heard it but it didn't matter a damn to me because she's my child and I (and seemingly every single other person who has ever commented on her name) love it.

I also agree that it fits the Granny chic names trend right now. But I think it is quite a lot cooler than most of them.

ButtonMoon88 · 23/04/2015 23:40

I'm really glad all of you seem to like her name, I never really doubted our choice it's just infuriating that so many of our friends have said its not nice, or girly enough!! I think I have been taking it very personally Sad

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Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 23/04/2015 23:35

Great name OP.

Tranquilitybaby · 23/04/2015 23:35

Who cares what they think, their opinion shouldnt matter a jot to you.

It's a beautiful name and it has so much meaning for you, what could be lovelier than that.

LuluJakey1 · 23/04/2015 23:34

It is a lovely name. I would think about it seriously if I had a baby girl. Ignore anyone who doesn't like it- no taste Smile

Italiangreyhound · 23/04/2015 23:31

PS my daughter's name is similar to a man's name, it never occurred to me so many people would get confused!

Italiangreyhound · 23/04/2015 23:30

My auntie (who I really love) made a comment about my daughter's name (think something like Faith in terms if how common it is) and when we adopted our son she also made a comment about his name (think Aiden). However, she adores my kids and really truly was just speaking her mind. She didn't like the names! One I chose, one I did not. She also felt comfortable enough with me and with her own thoughts to express her opinion.

I don;t agree with her and I don't much like that she said it, but I love her and moved on.

I can see how frustrating it must be if several people have said this.

In your shoes I would simply introduce the name with your own little fanfare.... We chose this name because it is so special to us, it represent my grandmother.... etc etc...

And wait. If I got a negative comment I would simply shrug and say, Oh well we love it, and we love her, now make me a cup of tea that is what guests are meant to do when women have had babies! Or some such thing.

villainousbroodmare · 23/04/2015 23:30

Oh, as Ivorymadonna says, it's occasionally pronounced Zhuhn and I once had a Skype interview with someone who clearly expected me to be a man (funny, not a problem), but for your girl the 'e' at the end will prevent that in most cases.

ilovemargaretatwood8931 · 23/04/2015 23:29

I think that is a really, really lovely name. If I was having another DD, I'd have considered that as a name; it's strong, beautiful and uncommon (nowadays). I think if people mock that name, they are unpleasant and have no taste! Very cool name. That is all!

SingingHinnies · 23/04/2015 23:28

My DD's middle name in Jean but she doesn't use it, try calling her Jeanie, it might sound a bit more twee/cutesy

Give it a year, i bet it's in fashion then

villainousbroodmare · 23/04/2015 23:26

It's my name - well, Jean is - and I've always liked it. It's simple but not very common and like the eponymous pants, goes with everything. She'll enjoy being Jeane and the best of luck to her in everything she does. x

SanctimoniousWitches · 23/04/2015 23:25

well, I like it. Its simplicity doesn't take away from its prettiness, plus, it's unusual without being weird.

I would have clicked, read your thread and run if I didn't like it.

ParkingFred · 23/04/2015 23:24

If you like it, that's all that matters.

ZombieZoo · 23/04/2015 23:24

I love it!!

tomatodizzymum · 23/04/2015 23:21

I like it, I know a Jean and she's fantastic.

ErrolTheDragon · 23/04/2015 23:19

Bugger fat thumb. Anyway of course the name mil hated was the one we'd chosen. We laughed, told her - and of course she got over it rapidly when the name was associated with her dgdSmile

mrsmeerkat · 23/04/2015 23:17

It's a beautiful name. I much prefer it to all of the overused names of the moment. My two boys have older less used names and I love them.

Try not to them them annoy you. Why people need to comment is beyond me. I genuinely think Jeane is very classic and pretty.

IvoryMadonna · 23/04/2015 23:17

I love Jean and I think it will become quite fashionable soon.

It's the real name of Scout in 'To Kill A Mockingbird', a book which most people seem to love. She's Jean Louise. Soooo much nicer than "Scout"!

The only slight drawback is that it's easily confused on paper with the French man's name Jean. I have a similar difficulty with my own name, in that Europeans have sometimes expected me to be a bloke Grin But it's never been a massive problem.

ErrolTheDragon · 23/04/2015 23:16

But that is a pretty normal name. ConfusedI can't imagine why anyone would be unkind about it unless they were simply not a very nice person.

When we were expecting dd there was only one name we both liked - before we'd told anyone MIL announced that there was one name she really didn't^ like (reminded her of someone)