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Should we change the name dilemma!

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LuckymummaOf2 · 09/03/2015 13:37

Hello,
Really hoping for some help here. My gorgeous DD2 is 8 weeks and currently called violet. We love the name but I have a nagging doubt every now and then about it and think perhaps felt pressured to name her. My reservation is mor really how some ppl pronounce it, and also read on various blogs that ppl see 'violence' rather than violet. This link had never occurred to me but now that too is on my mind. I always loved the name Cleo with DP didn't so was never an option, but now he likes it and are questioning whether to change it to Cleo. I am usually fairly decisive by nature but I am a dithering mess and its driving me nuts. I feel like a really terrible mum, and guilty for DD for thinking I go it wrong, and really not sure what to do.
Anyone had a similar situation or can offer any wise words? Help xx

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sosix · 09/03/2015 14:00

i have a violet, seriously she is 6 now and not a week goes by without someone saying what a pretty name. Its gorgeus, girly but tough too. We rarley meet any others. As for Violent, you get that with tonsbof names.... william, willy.... Smelly shelly.

Allstoppedup · 09/03/2015 13:59

I think Violet is beautiful but if you really feel unhappy then change it.

Having said that, my DS has an unusual name and for the first few months of his life I became very self conscious of our choice as so many people reacted (I felt) oddly too. I called him by nicknames a lot and focussed on how it looked like another word with negative connotations, like you. I was really worried and considered changing it for a time but stuck with it, made sure I used it frequently and confidently and now I love it. I'm so happy I stuck with it. Look at the reasons you chose it in the first place and follow your instinct.

TruJay · 09/03/2015 13:56

And I have no idea how you could get violence from Violet!!

TruJay · 09/03/2015 13:56

I like the name Violet and there are lots of nicknames she could go by. Found a link to some of them if u want to take a look.
My daughter's name is actually a nickname for Violet.

answers.yahoo.com/question/?qid=20100704034656AAotX2J

3luckystars · 09/03/2015 13:55

Change it! You can keep violet as a middle name. I know 2 people who changed their sons names, one after a week and one after a few weeks. The original names were lovely but just didn't sit right with them. Its no problem to change it.

Best of luck.

Unidentifieditem · 09/03/2015 13:53

I love the name Violet!! What a classic yet not commonly used name. Beautiful flower too. Cleo is nice but I really think you've picked a gem. As for people misreading the name surely that will happen to many names!

Cafeconleche · 09/03/2015 13:51

You're not a terrible mum btw Flowers xxx

Cafeconleche · 09/03/2015 13:49

Hi Lucky, if it's really distressing you then absolutely change the name - it happened to a friend of mine who'd named her DD what she thought was a lovely, original, unusual name only for a celeb mum to name her daughter the same lovely, original, unusual name a few months later. She freaked out with the thought that everyone would think that she'd copied the celeb. You could always keep Violet as her middle name and just say you decided to go with her 'first' name instead because she now looked more like a 'Cleo'.