Name Regret......?

How about Elodie?

How about Phemie? Prn Fayme?

Personally I wouldn't use the same name. Only because there are thousands of names and most peoples tastes change. I doubt Esme will be your favourite name in ten years time.

i have an Esme - I would say use it regardless of the fact that it is your elder daughter's second middle name.
don't know where you are, but in England, it couldn't be taken off the birth certificate anyway.
my two sisters have the same middle name - one of them uses it as her first name and the other has it as her third middle name (yes, she has four forenames!!)
no-one even thinks about it - friends, future work colleagues and others won't even know - I have no idea what my friend's siblings middle names are!!

go for it.

my friend has 2 daughters and the first dd's middle name is the second dd's first name. The girls love it!

I know a baby Esme, it's lovely, although I personally prefer Eliza.

I knew an Esmerelda is uni, she hated it as 99% of the time it was said Quasimodo like, she went by Emma.

I think you can -and absolutely should- go with your heart on this one . No question about it . My friend has an Esme nn Ezzie and it suits her . If my baby ( due June) is a girl she will be Esra nn ( probably ) Ezzie .
Good luck and go for it !

Clash you are right. Ezra is a boys name, a jewish name actually. I hear it a lot more here in the US. And of course there was the 20th century poet, Ezra Pound.

I'm not clear, are you planning it as DD2,s first name, or as a middle name again? I think middle name would be fine but if your partner didn't want it for DD1's first name, has he overcome his original objections to it?

The one think we agreed on with regard to our DC's names was that we would only choose ones we agreed on, we both had to give up our favourite girl's name because the other didn't like them. I couldn't have gone with a name DH didn't want, it would have spoiled it for me.

Agree it sounds quite feminine Clash!

I think you can use the same names.... lots of families do that as a connection,for example in my family, every single girl born since time immemorial has the name Lillian as our middle name. It's not a name I love, but I love the connection with all of my cousins and aunts and grandmother. (One cousin named her first DD Lily Lillian though.)

I know it is not the same as using your preferred name as a first name and as a middle name, but you could argue that it is a nice link, and start a new family tradition.

Isn't Ezra a boys name?

I know a little girl Ezra, so had just assumed it was a girls name....but a quick google indicates that it is more common as a boys name. Must admit, I'd always assumed it was a girls name.

Clutching at straws here but one could be ez-may and one ez-me?

Isn't Ezra a boys name?

By the way DH has just vetoed my second favourite girls name for DD2 so I get that it's disappointing when you can't use a name you've got your heart set on. I don't want him to have to put up with a name he's not keen on though so back to the drawing board!

Ezra?

I think you're overthinking it.

Call her what you like. If they do ever question it, just say, I liked it for dd1, dad didn't, so we chose Eliza instead.

By the time dd2 came around, we both liked Esme, so called dd2 that. Or you could just say that when dd1 turned up, she didn't look like an Esme.

I don't think it will be a big issue. I wouldn't put dd1s name as a middle name either, tbh, unless you particularly want to.

Personally I prefer Eliza

Or consider:

Elsie, Elise, Esmerelda ( with esme as nn),

That's a fair point Abby. in our case we genuinely had two names we liked equally (the name we are going to give dd2, we very nearly gave to dd1) but I guess that's rare.

Esme is a lovely name and the Twilight thing wouldn't have occurred to me (even though I've read/seen the books and films) I think Twilight fever is over now.

Eliza is a good name too and I don't think of "lie" when I hear it. Elise is a nice option too and could still be Ezzie. But if you love Esme then use it.

I'd use Esmée I bet nobody knows my kids middle names, who would even question it?? Go with your heart.

I actually much prefer Eliza .

Is your DH happy to use Esme this time round? If so then go for it. Make DD2's second middle name the same as DD1's first name.

Just reread my message.

'But only if you're not acing anyone children', should be:

But only if you're not having any more children.... In case that made no sense! Lol

Girls, not Hirks!!!!

I think you're overthinking this. If you love it that much and your DH can be persuaded, use it. No one else will think anything of it apart from maybe a passing "oh they must have really liked that name.." I went to school with two girls whose names were something like (changing as not to out me) Rebecca Helena and Helena Louise. All I ever thought was that the hirks parents must have loved the name Helena. No more than that.

Has your partner come around to Esmr then? I think it's fine to use, and yes you could then use your first daughter's first name as your second daughter's second middle name.... But only if you're not acing anyone children, as it would get very complicated if you then had a third daughter as the two first are 'linked' name wise, if you see what I mean!?

If you feel she is an Esme, then convince your hisband, it seems like the end of the world because you're extra emotional having just given bieth, but really I think it's completely fine to use it :)

Congratulations on Baby Esme ;) x