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well meaning or interfering grandparents?

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Goldfitch · 25/08/2014 19:18

I've recently shared our chosen names for our beautiful little girl with my parents.

My mum's reaction was to a) tell me everyone she already knows with the same names and b) email me a few hours later saying we should swap the middle and first names as she thinks it sounds better that way round.

thoughts on how to handle gratefully received!!!! I don't want to say something regretful to them when they arrive to visit tomorrow after an 8 hr journey (we live in Scotland them in SE England)

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Goldfitch · 25/08/2014 19:42

Opinions are like arseholes Grin thanks Carbediem love that!

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Roseformeplease · 25/08/2014 19:39

Ask her if she had any problems when she picked your name.

CarbeDiem · 25/08/2014 19:39

If it's mentioned then just cut off the conversation with ''we like it this way and that's what it will be''
Or you could say
opinions are like arseholes, everyone has one but they're better kept to oneself :)

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Goldfitch · 25/08/2014 19:37

also I should add I didn't seek her opinion!

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Goldfitch · 25/08/2014 19:34

Thanks! I meant chosen as in we have told everyone because she's 5 days old and I've just booked the registrar appt.

we're not changing them, I just wondered what other people would do in same situation Wink

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WaffleWiffle · 25/08/2014 19:30

Too late now, but don't tell and never ask for opinions on chosen names.

I still feel awful 10 years after my nephew was born. My brother and sister-in-law asked for opinions on two names and without thinking I answered honestly about disliking one and preferring the other. They chose the one I had said I disliked. I really wish they had never asked me about it.

peppapigonaloop · 25/08/2014 19:22

This is not helpful now but ime never tell anyone the name beforehand! They will all have an opinion and chances are you won't like it!!

That said, you just have to keep reiterating this is the name WE have chosen thanks. Or nod and smile and don't engage!