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OH wants to pay tribute in middle name - I don't like it!

59 replies

bethellex · 26/07/2014 21:11

Hi all, I'm having my first baby in November - a little girl and OH wants the middle name to be Pauleen, after his Gran. As much as I like his Nan and think this is a nice thought, I really don't like the name! Also my mum's new partner is called paul and it just reminds me of him!

The two first names we've managed to both agree we like are:
Lilia (preferred)
Alba

Do Lilia Pauleen or Alba Pauleen sound that bad?
Am I being selfish and disrespectful?

Our last name starts with R and is two syllables.

I like the name Lilia Belle.

I was thinking about the idea of two middle names so for example: Lilia (name) Pauleen (lastname)

What are everyone's thoughts on all of the names!? And any suggestions!?

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Rhubarbgarden · 26/07/2014 21:32

I agree that Lilia Pauleen has more character than Lilia Belle, which is very twee. I think using the middle name to honour relatives is both lovely and meaningful. Much nicer than just picking a random name. But if you really hate it, then I guess you have the right to veto.

FWIW my ds has a middle name that I dislike, which is a family name on DH's side. It meant a lot to DH so I was happy to use it. It's actually grown on me.

Floralnomad · 26/07/2014 21:29

Not keen on Pauleen ,but even less keen on Lilia Belle . Will you not risk offending all the other grans if you just use the name of one ( assuming you have 2 each) . Is the original Pauleen deceased and that's why he wants it ?

PenguinsHatchedAnEgg · 26/07/2014 21:28

I think Lilia Belle is a bit Disney too I'm afraid. I'm not a big fan of Belle generally - seems like a filler name to me.

Personally I would go with something a bit more classic. The problem with having Pauleen as a second middle name is that I'm not sure it will flow. Lilia Pauleen probably would though. Lilia Pauleen Grace, etc.

I presume Pauleen is the unusual spelling his Nan uses?

ohfourfoxache · 26/07/2014 21:21

Personally I'd go with 2 middle names.

Similar scenario here - Scottish tradition dictates that the first born has to have my maiden name as a middle name (I have my mums maiden name which is nothing like any normal first name). So we're having X/X/maiden name/surname.

winkywinkola · 26/07/2014 21:19

Pauline/ leen is my least favourite ne ever.

callamia · 26/07/2014 21:17

Personally, I find Lilia Belle a bit too Disney Princess. But I'm a dreadful old killjoy sometimes. Pauleen is quite sweet, though I agree, it's not what I'd choose either; but the sentiment is lovely. I think middle names are best when they serve a purpose like that, rather than just being pretty or sounding nice. Does your partner's nan have a nicer middle name herself?

Leviticus · 26/07/2014 21:16

And I actually think Lilia Pauline is nicer than Lilia Belle (which is sweet but very much of the current trend) fwiw.

JohnFarleysRuskin · 26/07/2014 21:16

I don't think you are being selfish or disrespectful, however I love remembering old people in babies names - dd has a very non flow middle name for that reason!

I think it sounds fine and special/unusual and will make people happy.

Or What about pauleena? Or Lena?

Leviticus · 26/07/2014 21:15

This is what middle names are for! It will probably sound fashionably retro by the the time she's a teen.

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