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Too cruel to choose a name with a geek/nerd connection?

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spence24 · 11/07/2014 11:48

OH and I are both self-confessed pop-culture geeks/nerds (whatever you wish to call us!) - I work in the comic book industry, he is a cartoonist and illustrator. We both love Sci-Fi, and always have.

We keep wanting to pick a name (we don't know gender) that has a link to the world we live in, and it will grow up in, but we also want it to be "normal" enough sounding just in case it decides to rebel and be into something like football... shudder

We also have the issue of the fact that our names already rhyme, something our friends and family bring up at every possible moment. He also has a daughter who name ends in -y, like ours both do, so ideally we want a name that doesn't do that, otherwise we may as well just join the circus as the rhyming family...

sigh - I think my hormones have kicked in because right now, the fact that I honestly believe we will NEVER agree on a name is really getting to me, and it seems to be the Number 1 challenge, which is ridiculous now that I've typed that...we're not even due until January!!!

Oh! And he also vetoes any name that ANY of his work colleagues have, or are married to, or have called their children, despite me not knowing ANY of them. ARGH.

Sorry, rant over. Going back to my corner now.

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GwenStacy · 11/07/2014 16:03

Oops!

looks at chest I think we'd get on just fine then! That sounds like an awesome photo to get!

Do you find being a woman in the comics industry hard? I'm very much on the periphery and find the totally overt sexism incredibly hard to deal with sometimes - sorry to go so off tangent!

GwenStacy · 11/07/2014 16:01

looks at chest I think we'd get

spence24 · 11/07/2014 15:59

GwenStacy - Do it! I met him a couple of years back and he is a lush little man that I just wanted to squeeze - so I did! Made for an awesome photo!

Helps that he's a boob man - he happily gave me a hug for the picture! DSD thinks it means I'm friends with the man who invented Spider-Man, and keeps asking me to phone him about a new character she's invented that week...

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captainproton · 11/07/2014 15:59

Oh I'm a big trekkie (if you can't tell from my name).

There is no way DH would allow me a sci-fi name.

But if we get a fluffy rodent as a pet (one day when the kids are older) I am going to call it Tribble.

I like Dax, we had a neighbour called Dax he was a lawyer. Also like Paris instead of Tom. Both names are unisex.

spence24 · 11/07/2014 15:58

Hakluyt - How do you suggest a name is chosen then?! Surely you pick a name because you like it, and I'd wager that more often than not, people like a name because it has a connection to them, whatever connection that may be - we have already agreed that middle names will be family names, but we don't actually want them as a first name, because they aren't "us" - sadly we don't like a world where you can determine the personality of your child before birth, so you have to choose based on your own desires.

Maybe we should just all not name our children, and call them all a generic name until they can choose for themselves.

I'm really not understanding what you're missing from my original post, where I stated my wishes for a "normal" name, just steeped in the culture I am a part of - if I were looking for a name of a certain ethnic origin would you also tell me that my child isn't an "accessory"?

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GwenStacy · 11/07/2014 15:52

Reckon it's worth paying the £80 to meet him this weekend and taking my daughter along? ;-)

spence24 · 11/07/2014 15:52

idahobeachhouse - We both like Willam, annoyingly, OH's surname has a lot of Ls in it, so it would sound like a tongue twister to say! Same reason his DD didn't get called Lily as him and EXW wanted...

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GwenStacy · 11/07/2014 15:51

But we're not naming our babies Buffy or Drusilla or Willow - we're deliberately choosing names that link in but aren't obvious that's the reason they were chosen. If I met a baby Anya I wouldn't think Buffy - I doubt anyone other than a very small amount of people will get that Kara is a reference to anything either.

spence24 · 11/07/2014 15:50

GwenStacy I am literally giggling to myself at that one! Good job I'm the only one at work right now!

Stan Lee autographed babies would probably fetch a pretty penny on eBay...

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Hakluyt · 11/07/2014 15:49

"Also Hakluyt, you are aware that babies don't stay babies for long? "

Yes. Which is why you shouldn't give it a name that links it to a particular interest group that is might want to drop like a stone as soon as it's old enough.

GwenStacy · 11/07/2014 15:49

Keep quiet about the dropping, might buff out? Get it signed by Stan Lee and you're on to a money maker!

idahobeachhouse · 11/07/2014 15:49

Spike's real name is William.

RiverTam · 11/07/2014 15:48

seriously - I think that certainly GoT names will become more and more popular - I'm working on an annual Baby Names book right now and the number of GoT connections in the listings is loads - it gets far more of mentions than just about any book/TV series (bar maybe Harry Potter).

spence24 · 11/07/2014 15:46

...what if I keep the recipt? And only drop it once but it was totally an accident...

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GwenStacy · 11/07/2014 15:46

Her head was on the 99.6th centile. Believe me the packaging is no longer in mint condition.

TortoiseUpATreeAgain · 11/07/2014 15:44

You can get a refund if you haven't damaged the original packaging while getting it out.

GwenStacy · 11/07/2014 15:43

I think we're meant to try and keep them in mint condition :-(

spence24 · 11/07/2014 15:42

Also Hakluyt, you are aware that babies don't stay babies for long? We are trying to find a name for the person were are bringing into the world - a name that will be on their driving licence, that they may stand up in church/registry office and say out loud if they get married, and that they need to put on their CV when they apply for jobs.

...another reason I can't get on board with "cutesy" names...I'm an employer, and I know I'm a terrible person for it, but I do judge people based on the name at the top of their CV - they're representing my company - if they sound like a toddler, my business won't work!

If they're called Odin however.... Wink

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spence24 · 11/07/2014 15:37

HA! GwenStacy you are also now on my "Favourite People on MN" List!

...are you seriously telling me I can't get an upgrade after two years? Shit - what if it's all scratched and start being glitchy and stuff? Grin

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GwenStacy · 11/07/2014 15:34

Oh shit, really Hakluyt? I was hoping I could swap her for a newer model towards the end of the year?

I don't know her, but I'm pretty sure Spence is going through the same thing we did - wanting a name that doesn't immediately scream "my parents watched Buffy/Star Trek/GoT when pregnant and I got stuck with this name!" but that at the same time, reflects our interests - and allows people who know you to guess where you got the idea for the name from with a knowing smile.

Now, if you'll excuse me, Tony, Bruce, Natasha, Thor and Steve need their tea cooking.

spence24 · 11/07/2014 15:32

Haha, Tortoise - I like you! Smile
I almost take offence (if I were easily offended) at the "lifestyle" remark though - my child WILL be brought up in my lifestyle though, just like yours are raised in yours. So what's the big deal? We are hardworking creative people who work in an incredibly talented, hard-working and creative industry - why wouldn't I want to be proud of that, and pass that on to my child?

So....Cthulu it is then! Grin

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weatherall · 11/07/2014 15:28

Luke is a vamp at the v start of btvs.

You could spell Anya, Aine to distance from the show.

Caleb
Tara I think more of gone with the wind but it's a lively name too.

Lorne could be unisex.

Scott

Kendra is def a fan name.

Joyce?

Allalonenow · 11/07/2014 15:27

Ursula or Andre for a girl surely?

TortoiseUpATreeAgain · 11/07/2014 15:20

Yeah, and the poor thing will be just mortified if she has to go through life with a name like Elizabeth or Jennifer. People will stop and stare and say "What were the parents thinking???"

If the OP were thinking of Bav-Tek or Dzirot then you might have a point.