Mother giving me grief over baby name!

Probably Middlings

Personally I like names for girls that predispose someone who has never met them before to view them in a positive light. Why create a glass ceiling for your child in the womb. I have the same opinion around names with non trad spellings or the Kai/Wayne/Princess "is it chavvy?" arguments on MN all the time.

It's really sexist I know but when I hear the name "Honey" [as a given name] I don't think capable professional, I think airhead. Very unfair but I know that I am not alone in this because I work with someone who is a huge surprise amounting to shock to everyone in our organisation when they meet her. She is clearly going to be hugely sucessful and is doing a great job of breaking down people's preconceptions for the next "Honey" that comes their way.

Kitty to me just says Kitten. Young, childish, playful, sweet, pliable, fluffy. It's one thing to have a nickname at home where peope who know you would laugh at anyone describing you as a fluffy airhead, but in the real adult world, it will result in discrimination and preconceptions unless the Kitty Dukakis is elected the next USA President. Handy in some careers if you want to be frequently underestimated but a huge handicap in others. Sucessful women with names like that usually end up just using an initial or their middle names in those circumstances because it is incredibly frustrating.

All that said - it's your baby and this is only my opinion. You've asked for it so you've gotten it. I don't think you asked your Mum so you can either point her to the link or tell her to butt out.

TreadSoftly is it our nationality that makes us obsessed with role model names?!

I wouldn't countenance any names for the DDs that wouldn't work as Prime Minister, Taoiseach, President, CEO, Supreme Court Judge or Attorney General!

Sorry - Personally I don't like it. The association with Hello Kitty would do it for me and in the wrong school she'd just be called Pussy.

Kit is short for Christopher usually isn't it? I wonder why Kitty is not short for Christabel or Christine/Christina ?

I would register her as Katherine or Cate, and Kitty for short. That way, she has alternatives if she wants to use them or chooses a career/has a personality that Kitty doesn't "fit" with.

Alternatives are Kaitlyn/Caitlyn/Caitlin
Katerina
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kitty_(given_name) None of these say role model names to me.

Your baby, your choice though

I also like it- but that doesn't really matter. It's what you and OH think.

Why discuss names with family members?

It's a private thing between the parents of the new baby. No matter what name you choose there will always be family members who don't like it.

I like Kitty, by the way.

Tell her it's going to be short for KittenFur

Names are SUBJECTIVE.

'She says she is surprised that I am going with something so plain after all the other lovely choices I have suggested'

• no no no. One person's plain is another one's crazy. ESPECIALLY when they're of a different generation.

Kitty isn't plain. To our generation, it's exactly as you describe it. To hers, different.

Never never never listen to anyone else's opinion on baby names. Never. Only yours matters, naming your child is YOUR chance to do it and if you bend to another person's opinion you will regret it.

'she said this about my ds name but adores it now'

• and that's another reason you should not listen to her!!

This baby isn't here yet, right? She'll love the baby. And therefore love the name! She'll get over it.

Have to tell you, we didn't tell anyone our baby names to avoid these conversations!!

Also, what's wrong with Catherine . Perfectly good name not biased, nope, not a bit.

Kitty is lovely think Florence is a nothing name in compassion loads of Florence's around not met a single 'kitty' it's on my list if I have a dd2 but I would use Katherine on the birth certificate.
Some Family members didn't like my dd's name choice when I told them we were thinking of using if but now they like it but I wasn't going to be swayed anyway it was out decision not our family's :)

I know a very cute 8 year old named Kitty and she rocks!

I like Kitty, it's a family name for me. I'd say you should definitely use it.

My mum didn't like my choice of name for either of my children. I didn't like her suggestions. We just have different taste. She got to name her children, I got to name mine. I just told her I was still using those names, as soon as they were born and registered she never said anything negative

Kitty is a lovely nickname for a child. When they got older the pussy jokes would start.

Kitty is lovely.

Florence is

Tell her you've made up your mind and you don't like any others. If she still goes on about it tell her age had her turn t naming her own children. She might be your dm but she is being very rude about this.

My mum hated ds' name (and we didn't tell her until after he was born)

Every time someone asked his name she'd say ' it's xxxx, we don't like it but I suppose it's their choice'

Drove me batshit until I reminded her of her argument with my aunt over my name. Ds' name is quite popular and not weird at all btw!

I love Kitty :-)

It is a gorgeous name! Though I think I prefer it better as a short form of something else - I have heard of Kitty being used as a nn for Tabitha though, that could be an option if you go for a longer name on the birth cert?

Sorry your dm has a point but cutesy names for adult women a pet hate of mine ( poppy kitty, daisy, honey - shudder). Strong names needed for strong women!

She'll get over it, once kitty is here and thsts her name then thats it. Sometimes its best not to share potential names with family members.

Have a good friend with this name, shes a manager at my work, and its her full name. And because of her I think of a cute feisty high achiever when think of the name.

This is exactly why I never shared my dc names before they were born! No one can share their opinion with you once they've been born.
Kitty is lovely

Hmmm, a 25 year old woman called Kitty? I don't like it, but you shouldn't care what anyone thinks. It's your baby. Next time don't discuss names...just tell them the baby's name on birth. It's harder to argue it then!

I like it. Not that it matters. You like it. That's all that matters. Why don't you ask her who picked your name? I imagine that should end the conversation.

She'll love it when she's holding her gorgeous granddaughter in her arms and within a month she'll not be able to imagine her called anything else.

Congratulations :)