Mother is Catherine, her dd is Kate. Odd or not?

Naming your daughter a nickname of your own name (which Kate is to Catherine) isn't something I would do personally but. But surely this is up to the mum (even if her sister disgrees).

I think it does come across as naming the DD after the mother given that Kate is a nn for Catherine.

But it's very rude for the friend's sister to say this to the friend.

Kate is a perfectly valid stand alone name. I wouldn't actually make the connection with Catherine, necessarily.

The Catherine I know who is planning to do this is known by her nephew and niece and a few others as Katie. We may be thinking of the same person because the OP may not know this.

The Ops friend isn't naming her child after herself though.

I've known a mother and daughter with this exact combination, it's not what I would choose but I don't think it's actually wrong. It annoys me more when two members of a family are known by exactly the same name, especially if one parent is namechecked and not the other. (We used to have neighbours where the mother and oldest daughter were both Teresa, but their son didn't have his dad's name, even though it was still perfectly common and not dated. I could never decided whether it was more unfair on dad - not to be honoured - or on Teresa Junior to be the only one without an original name.)

Donkeys, are you really suggesting that she tells her sister that she's choosing to name her daughter after herself because it's a nicer name than her sister's?

That can't be right. There are more than two names to choose from in this world, and there's no need to be nasty.

Does she have any other children? Or is she planning any? I would worry about how other children would feel if they didn't also share her name.

If this was a man and his son everyone would think it was absolutely fine that they were 'carrying on the name'. Why is it any different for a woman? She should tell her sister she didn't ask for her opinion and it's too late to change now so she'll just have to deal with it. And I think both names are lovely actually (Catherine is a family name and so we have lots of variations in the family, perfectly normally as far as I'm concerned).

I know a Catherine with a DD named Katherine, but the mother is Cathy and the daughter Katie. It's fine, and I've never known anyone think it odd.

Actually, thinking about it, the mother has a sister called Patricia who gets Trisha, and their mother is also Patricia but gets Pat!

I know five Kates. One of them is me. It's been a popular name for years and years and years.

The sister is being very weird.

I think it is fine. They are different enough to not be strange imo. I think the sister is being unkind in this situation and there must be history/issues with their relationship

My late mother was Joan Alice. I'm Joanne Allison

Yes, two l's

If the men can do it, why can't we? I think it's fine. Lots of women do it in my part of the world.

I wouldn't mind having a daughter Caroline, but I might call her Carrie.

It's fine. Her sister is being very unkind.

It's fine, her sisters being weird

I don't see why this is a problem! Plus, she is naming her child, so I can't really see why on earth her sister is so bothered unless the sister has a secret longing to call a daughter Kate. Your friend's choice, her child, she should be free to pick a name she loves. I know a family three generations daughter my age and granddaughter ages with my kids and all with the same name on BC and each goes by a different derivation, and why not?! Men do it all the time! And your friend isn't even using the same name!!

I know a mother and daughter called Liz (full name Elizabeth) and Libby ( just Libby on bc).

Obviously both names are nicknames for Elizabeth but it's never been an issue. She wasn't naming her daughter after herself, she just loved the name Libby!

smile sweetly, that should have said. Yes it wouldn't do if we all liked the same but if the sister din't approve maybe voice it tactfully (or not comment at all).

Personally I wouldn't give my dd a nickname (Kate) of my own name (Catherine) - there are so many lovely names to choose from.

But if your friend doesn't love any other name as much, then she should go for it. But its ok imo for her sister to feel differently. Thankfully we all have different views/tastes.

I think this often happens with men and their sons' names, it isn't that unusual.

OP your friend should say sweetly in future and just say she liked her own name better than her DSis's.

your friend should ignore her sister - they are different names.

I think Kate is a popular enough name that it wouldn't automatically be associated with Kate Middleton who is now, for the foremost referred to as Catherine anyway.

I think your friend has chosen a lovely name and she shouldn't feel embarrassed. Her sister is clearly jealous or has some other issues with your friend. If I were your friend I would tell her to mind her own business.