Name regret - does it ever go away?

If it is a Evie, Eva type name then I wouldn't think its like a modern day Tracey at all!

Though perhaps in 100 years Tracey will be popular amongst the polo set!

Just want to agree with Everard's sentiments. I'm friends with a Paris, a Keeley, a Demi and Shanice from my days at Cambridge.

I'm guessing that her name is something like Isla, which is lovely; and although it is currently very popular, it's still an old solid name; nothing like Tracey!

I think you will get over it.

that should read non-classic and non-timeless

In my day, the popular, non-classic and timeless names were Tracey and Sharon - no offence to anyone with those names but they were the sort of names that would have been hollered down a supermarket aisle or screamed by a bunch of women staggering drunkenly down the street. Then I met a Sharon who was an Oxbridge graduate and an extremely well-heeled Tracey and it made me realise: the name does not define the person, the person defines the name. So it will be with your daughter.

From my guess your dd name is timeless but in top five? So of its time as well?

Op how do you feel about your own name out of interest?

Dd2 has a name that dh and I compromised over and although it is a lovely name, I do wonder why we didn't choose something else. I think I'm influenced by people mispronouncing it though! It is a name like Harriet with a t at the end and people miss it off. It really annoys me!

Op a popular name isn't a bad thing. My dd1 haas one of the classic names you listed in your op and there are a fair few of them around.

I hope you feel better getting your worries off your chest.

Absolutely will happen, and you'll think back to this day and agree with her!

Salazar, that's an excellent checklist!

yes i had this too so i no how you feel. I love love love the name Luca but dh didnt. i really wish i had stuck to it (especially as he is now ex-dh) but ds fits his name - and nickname!

Words of advice from my late great-grandma "it's just something for people to call you".

The regret will lesson, but you've got to frame it in your mind in a way that will allow the regret to go away.

So..

Does your daughter like it?
Does she suit her name?
Nobody teases her for her name?
Does she fit in with her peers names?
Will the name have a negative impact on her life?

If you're answering all the right answers, you've chosen a pretty solid name for your DD. Well done - tonnes of parents can't even do that.

You've got to get a little bit badass about it I think! Think 'fuck it, that's my daughter, that's her name, and she is a bright, happy little girl'

Try to associate all the things your daughter is with the name, not just the name itself.

Hi op. I think everyone gets comments even if you choose unique name. I think you're damned if you do, damned if you don't. With DD1 name I wonder if it passes the right hon test! Dd2 name is yoonique and I've been told she will hate spelling it forever more.

If its similar to Ava perhaps its Eve or Evie, it doesn't really matter. Yes, it is popular, no denying that, but it is also a beautiful name. Hence why it is so popular!

Most girls I know go through a phase of disliking their name. I know I did. As I get older it doesn't bother me that I have a name popular for that decade. Your dd might at one point have a moan about her name. Be prepared for that! I am prepared for dd telling me she preferred original name!

You are not mad. Not at all. It seems that your mind is stuck on this, that's all.

If only we had longer than six weeks to decide. I think I needed 3 months. But at the end of the day one name is as good as another. I had to tell myself that when deciding between two names and remind myself whenever I think about the what if name.

If it is top five it can't be a horrid name.

I'm sure everyone would be saying how lovely it is if you told.

I love one of my DC's names but the other was very much a compromise neither of us hate it DH and I can't find anything else to agree on thing.

But the name isn't the person. It's just a word. Not really a definition.

I think the regret does lessen, yes.

I gave my dd a name that is not at all like my other children's names (which all have a similar theme, if you will) and it is not a classic or traditional name, which is something else I have always valued. I have no idea why I chose such a name. Her mn is classic and beautiful and what I actually wanted to call her, but at the last minute I changed it to her mn as I knew someone with a dd with a similar name and didn't want to seem to be copying her (I hardly know her now!)

I couldn't keep my feelings to myself so my dd has long been aware that I regret my name choice. She too preferred her mn and wanted to be known by that name for a while, but it was too hard to start using another name, albeit her mn.

I am not sure how she feels now, but I feel less strongly about it. It is something to do with seeing her growing into womanhood (she is 14 now). It is hard to explain, but to me, as she grows up, she becomes less and less one of many, and more and more her own unique individual. And the name goes with that individual, if that makes any sense?