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Am I being mean?

26 replies

ClareaBear · 27/03/2014 12:26

Hi all

I'm in a bit of a pickle. The tradition in my husband's family is for the son's middle name to be the father's first name. It's been going on for generations, but my hubby's name is Bruce...! Mother-in-law had a hatred for nicknames so chose 4 names that could not be shortened (Bruce Ian Jane Claire)

My husband actually doesn't mind if we don't use it, and use his father or grandfather's instead. He agrees it is not the most pleasant name and has always hated it himself! But I'm a bit afraid of offending my father in law who I have a great relationship with. Am I being a bit vain/selfish to want to disturb a family tradition? I'm sure it would get right back on track if my son has a son of his own but I just can't bring myself to like Bruce!

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AuntieStella · 27/03/2014 12:32

It's in the middle, and it could be worse.

And it's your Dh's name. Can you see the link to him rather than the aesthetics? He might be fairly laid back about snubbing it, but he might also be secretly rather pleased at its use.

To could always have more than one middle name to dilute it a bit if that helps.