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Is this a common theme for middle names?

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Writerwannabe83 · 20/03/2014 09:09

Me and DH are having our first baby tomorrow (via CS) and still haven't fully decided on a name Smile

We were discussing middle names though and asked him what he thought about one of the middle names (we have decided on one of them) as being the same as DH's first name.

Is this still commonly done?

DH was a bit unsure but I thought it was a really popular choice for middle names of boys, to give them their dad's name?

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Wishfulmakeupping · 27/03/2014 20:24

Lovely congratulations :)

Lancelottie · 27/03/2014 15:05

Brilliant! Congratulations to you all.

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Writerwannabe83 · 27/03/2014 09:56

Well our little man arrived safely and we opted for Michael Smile

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GreggsOnLegs · 20/03/2014 20:13

Ds1 and dh have the same middle name, it was dh's choice. I wasn't so keen but compromised as I chose his first name.
Arran John Benjamin gets my vote.

CleverOl10 · 20/03/2014 19:53

I would always choose the name of someone special in our family as a middle name. Ds has my brothers name. Ds2 is going to have my dh's brothers name. A girl would have his late grandmother's name. I think it is a nice idea.

PenguinsEatSpinach · 20/03/2014 14:42

If the men aren't great, how about any unisex names or surnames from the women in your mum's family?

Homebirthquestion · 20/03/2014 13:41

Dd has my middle name as hers. I actually wasn't keen and can't help but feel it's a bit narcissistic (it's not a family name or tradition) but dh insisted.

I think one name from each grandparent is nice and Michael John flows better to me.

cathpip · 20/03/2014 11:05

All of my dc have their grandparents names as middle names. We have a Michael, Anne, Alexander and this baby due in 10 days will be Christopher (male version of Christine after my mum who died 18 months ago).

noodlebum · 20/03/2014 10:59

My nephew has his dads name as a middle name Smile

Aboyandabunny · 20/03/2014 10:55

My DS has DH's name as one of his middle names and my DGF's as the other. His first name has absolutely no family connection at all.

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Writerwannabe83 · 20/03/2014 10:43

Another thought would be a name from your mum's side of the family?

All the men on my mom's side of the family are pretty horrible people unfortunately - but at least it makes the decision making easier Grin

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Writerwannabe83 · 20/03/2014 10:40

Arran John Benjamin has too many n's

Grin

That made me laugh - that's exactly the kind of random thing I would say and think and obsess over Grin

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hunreeeal · 20/03/2014 10:39

too

hunreeeal · 20/03/2014 10:39

Arran John Michael sounds great.

Arran John Benjamin has to many n's.

BirdintheWings · 20/03/2014 10:38

Another thought would be a name from your mum's side of the family? Wish we'd done that now.

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Writerwannabe83 · 20/03/2014 10:32

I think I probably will go for Michael - my DH wasn't particularly bothered about his own name being included in the baby's name whereas my dad would probably be quite touched Smile

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alita7 · 20/03/2014 10:30

I would go for Michael as it comes from your family. I'm assuming he'll have your dps surname so it would be very him orientated otherwise!

AmberLeaf · 20/03/2014 10:24

I gave my 3 boys a middle name that was either the first or middle name of my Grandad, and their Dads Grandad. All of the names were also middle names or first names of my Dad and various uncles on my side and their Dads side, it is very much a tradition in my and their Dads family.

I liked the idea and my Dad and my uncle were very touched by it. Now they are older, my boys also like that they have traditional family names and a 'link' to their deceased family members, even the one that has the more 'out there' of the names [very old fashioned and not very common name from his Jamaican side of the family]

Good luck for tomorrow OP Smile

BirdintheWings · 20/03/2014 10:09

Ah, in that case go with either:
one from each side of the family
or:
DH's dad's name (and surname?), plus one you just really, really like.

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Writerwannabe83 · 20/03/2014 10:07

Is 5 names not a lot though???
I'm not sure I could do it to him Smile

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Wishfulmakeupping · 20/03/2014 10:04

I'd use all four in that case then there's no rules and I think it would be nice to include a name from your families side -Aaron John Micheal Benjamin

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Writerwannabe83 · 20/03/2014 10:01

This is VERY likely to be our only baby - I've got various health problems which could potentially affect a baby, my pregnancy has been full of problems (my health has deteriorated and have been signed off sick since I was 10 weeks gone) and me and DH always said that if we got through one pregnancy and had a healthy baby at the end of it and my health remained stable then we'd just count our blessings and be happy with one and not risk having another. Whether we'll still feel like that in a few years though, who knows Grin

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BirdintheWings · 20/03/2014 09:57

I'd hold fire on at least one of them for the moment. That way, if you have another son at any point (yes, yes, probably not your first thought the day before delivering this one!), he too can have a family element to his name.

Nocomet · 20/03/2014 09:54

DD1 is my fav great aunt, my name
DD2 is weather girl DH fancied, DMLs name

To be fair Me, DH and my family all agreed we liked DD2s first name and unfortunately my wonderful eccentric DMIL died while I was PG.

I don't have a DS, but he would have been DH second name (which also has family connections my side)

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Writerwannabe83 · 20/03/2014 09:48

I think Michael is probably more unusual/less common than Benjamin which is one of the reasons I'm leaning towards that...

I'm leaning towards both for different reasons Smile

At one point I was worried about the middles names being John and Michael though in case everyone thought I was obsessed with Peter Pan Grin

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