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What to call grandmothers?

58 replies

Orlea · 30/01/2014 12:15

What do you (or rather your children) call your children's grandmothers? Both DM and MIL are Scottish.

DM's mum was Mama (her father was Papa) and Dad's mum was Granny (I never knew his father). DH called all of his grandparents 'Gran/Granpa+Surname', as in Gran Smith vs Gran Jones, which I find a bit weird for some reason!

I quite like the idea of continuing the 'Mama' tradition, but DM is already 'Granny' to other grandchildren, and I don't think MIL will like it (and DM might not like that being used). I don't really mind that much, and we will ask them their preference when the time comes, but I'm just curious as to what other people like/dislike and what combinations you have for either side...

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pinkgirlythoughts · 30/01/2014 18:13

Oh, and we sometimes refer to the two direct sets of GPs by the aunties that still live at home, e.g. Grandma & Grandad Laura and Grandma & Grandad Becky

pinkgirlythoughts · 30/01/2014 18:10

We asked them. Four out of the five sets wanted to be grandma and grandad!

So now we have:
Grandma and Grandad (my mum and stepdad)
Grandad Name and Nanny Name (my dad and stepmum)
Grandma Name & Grandad Name (my grandparents)
Grandma and Grandad (MIL and FIL)
Grandma Name and Grandad Name (GMIL and GFIL). This last one was only decided recently, GMIL was quite insistent that she only really wanted to be Grandma, so we had a couple of years of them signing cards with a different name every time, depending which one of them had written in it! The rest of the family have decided together that they will be known by first names too now, as calling them all 'other grandma and grandad' was getting somewhat confusing!

LastOneDancing · 30/01/2014 17:11

My cousins boy used to call his great- grandmother 'Old Nanny' Confused I think she was ok with it - at least it was honest.

My mum will carry on the title and be 'Nanny'. I love it, it's cosy.
Dunno what MIL will be, I suspect she will be rather posher 'Grandma'.

TaurielTest · 30/01/2014 17:09

My paternal Scottish grandparents were Granda and Grandma, and my maternal English ones were Nana and Grampa. My children call my mum Nana now (and they call her mum, who's still with us at 98, Nana-Nana).

Oblomov · 30/01/2014 17:04

Grin squoosh.

ilovepowerhoop · 30/01/2014 17:01

I called my grans Gran 'surname' so both were Gran but differentiated by the surname e.g. Gran Smith and Gran Jones. DH calls both his Gran but differentiates by using their first name after it e.g. Gran Dot and Gran Mary. I used Grandpa and dh uses Grandad.

Dh's mum doesnt like Gran, Granny, etc so gets called Nanny by the kids (Still feels weird to me to say it though). My mum is just Gran to the children. Dh's dad is Grandad and my dad is dead so never got called anything.

HoratiaDrelincourt · 30/01/2014 17:00

curlew we have "great-grandma who sits down" (right side paralysis following stroke) and "great-grandma who stands up". Both g-gma to their faces. DS1 came up with the distinction at age 2, and very apt we thought it too.

curlew · 30/01/2014 16:53

We had big grandma in the big house and little grandma in the little house
Both just grandma to their faces.

Hulababy · 30/01/2014 16:49

We let the individual grandparents choose what they wanted to be called.

Infact, all very simple: all grandmothers are nana, all grandfathers are grandad. Surnames used to distinguish between them if need be.

Great-grandmothers: one grandma, one nana
Great-grandfathers: one grandad great; one grandad

Frikadellen · 30/01/2014 16:45

Mil is Grandma FIL was Grandad (though dd1 called Him Grandfar)

my mother is Mormor
Step dad Bedstefar

my dad Morfar

Danish way to do it.

I suspect I will become grandma... Not 100% sure though. Kinda nice to stick with mormor/farmor and keep the Danish.

clippityclop · 30/01/2014 16:16

I'm a Nana or Nan if they're in a hurry, I had two Nanas, my girls have a Grandma and a Gran. Quite like the Italian Nonna though

squoosh · 30/01/2014 16:15

Nanny Two Dogs sounds like a mafia granny, kind of like Jimmy Five Guns.

Oblomov · 30/01/2014 16:13

My mum is Scottish. She asked to be called 'Nana'.
Dh's mum has been called 'Nanny Seaside' by all her latest grandchildren. She used to be 'Nanny Two Dogs', by the oldest grandchildren, but then the dogs died and she moved to the seaside , so the youngest grandchildren now refer to her as 'Nanny Seaside'.

turkeyboots · 30/01/2014 15:57

We asked. DM chose Granny. MiL chose Gran.

cathpip · 30/01/2014 15:45

We got told (nicely though) by both dm and dmil that they wanted to be called granny and nana. :)

MirandaGoshawk · 30/01/2014 15:35

We have a Nana & Nickname & a Grandma.

My DM (Grandma) also thinks that Nana is not posh, also because it was the name of the dog in Peter Pan Shock

Innogen · 30/01/2014 15:30

We have a Nanny and a Grandma.

BlueChampagne · 30/01/2014 15:00

Ours became Granny & Grandad 4 and Granny & Grandad 8 after their house numbers!

Onesleeptillwembley · 30/01/2014 14:21

Grandma and granddad. MUL oddly sent a birth card for oldest saying 'nana' which exh had never ever used for his grandparents. We just continued to say 'grandma' and she got the message. Under no circumstances would they be using that, it just doesn't sound right to either myself or ex.

CoffeeChocolateWine · 30/01/2014 14:19

My children's grandparents are:

Gran and Gramps (my parents)
Nana and Grandpa (DH's parents)

When I was growing up, my mum's parents were Grandma and Grandpa, my dad's parents were Ga-Ga and Grandpa.

Ga-Ga apparently came from my older sister when she was a toddler and couldn't say Grandma and it stuck!

TarkaTheOtter · 30/01/2014 14:17

We have grandads, a granny and a grandma.
Both my DM and Mil chose their own but to their horror 2yr old dd has started calling both nana. They keep suggesting we are encouraging this we are.

MillyONaire · 30/01/2014 14:15

We asked MIL and my DM what they would like to be called - luckily they chose Nana & Granny so no confusion but a friend told her MIL that SHE could not stand Nana and therefore the MIL was not ever to be called Nana - she had notions that "Nana" was not posh!! IMO it's up to the granparent and grandchild and not to the notions of a parent - they get to chose what they are called.

Chopchopbusybusy · 30/01/2014 14:12

I had gran and papa and nana when growing up. When I had DDs my Mum was very definite that she didn't want to be Nana and asked to be called gran or grandma. We went with gran. MIL just called herself nana. All happy! We're Scottish too, hence Papa.

squoosh · 30/01/2014 14:09

I had Grannies growing up and would struggle to use the word 'Nanny', think it's awful.