Fallen out with husband over babies name please help

Why couldn't a French person say Owen?! I'm French and have no trouble with it!! I always thought as long as you avoided the 'th' sound you're golden!

What about
Laurence
Simon
Adrien
Julien
Joseph
Charles/Charlie
Noah
Jonas
Jean
Philip
Christophe/r
Franklin
Oliver
Florian
Max
Eric
Paul
Edward
Robert
Jack/jacque
Gregory
Anthony
Nicholas

How about Phillipe or Charles?

If he has picked surname and middle name then you should get to choose the first name, surely, or you are getting no input at all! This is what DP and I agreed when we had DD, he picked surname and gave her a family name from his side for her middle name so I got final say in first name

What about Dominic? That is French/English sounding? Dominic Blaise.
Or maybe Louis, Xavier, Lucas, Olivier, Oscar, Alexander/Alexandre, Lucien.

Sorry if I have done lots of repeats!

So it's his surname too even though you have kept yours? Him him him all the way and what you want is to be argued off the court?

I suggest that you ask him which he would prefer of the following two FAIR options:

Your surname, and he can pick the first name

His surname, and you can pick the first name.

...this with Blaise, HIS middle name, already a given.

I'd like to see what his reply would be, and whether he's enough of a tit to actually come out and say that he'd like HIS preferences and HIS family names to be the only ones considered, and you can go hang.

He's starting to sound a real catch OP. You know those threads that say why on earth don't women who have kept their names give THEIR surname to their children, because in the event of a split it's about 90% certain that they'll be the ones living with the children? Just mentioning it...

This is the fiirst of many parenting challenges that lie ahead ( and quite a small challenge at that).

If you are finding it difficult to find a middle ground over choosing your baby's name then you better brace yourself for the years ahead.
Couples have to revisit this idea of finding a middle ground many times when raising a baby, whether it's ofer discipline/diet/bed times/ sleep overs/ curfew times/ nights out alone/ who takes time off work.

I would you suggest that you take some time to re-evaluate the ground between you if you are finding something as simple as naming your child so difficult.

There are bigger challenges ahead.

I don't see either one of you compromising, so I think you should each draw up a list of ten names and each gets to strike two off the other's list.

You use the lists to come up with both a first and a middle name. You will both have to act in good faith here and not include outrageous names that haven't a hope along with the only two names you like (so no list should include eight names like Ethelred along with Owen and Blaise for instance, or Sebastian and Blaise, if you get my drift). Maybe you could agree that Henry and Blaise are off limits since they are bones of contention?

I think you also need to be practical as MiniMonty suggests, and consider both the background and the future milieu of the child.

There are some circles where Blaise would go down well and some where it wouldn't. If you're not from an Old Catholic Family whose ancestral pile boasts a priest hole then I would forget about Blaise as a first name.

a nice Welsh name like Iestyn or Ieuan might work?

Before any decision is made I think you need to be honest with yourselves about how and where you are going to live - if you are going to live in England then the boy needs an English/Welsh name that might play well in France. If you're going to live in France he needs a French name that nods a little bit to the Pays Du Galle.

Growing up in England with a name like "Blaise" would be a nightmare for a boy.

"Max" is not a name - it's a abbreviation of Maximilian and being given an abbreviated name like "Tony" or "Mike" is not a good start for a kid let's be honest...

And... hang on a minute - a half French, half Italian guy hooks up with a Welsh girl and then wants to dictate a name that works well in English and French ??? Where's the Welsh ? Where's his respect for your heritage ? And where's the Italian? And where is his head if he thinks he can make a big fuss about his national heritage while ignoring yours - and this baby's ?

Where will this boy grow up and go to school?
Will his Father teach him French and Italian from day one (and throughout his early life)? Is there family to consider ? Or is it just macho stuff of the father wanting the son to reflect him from day one?

Let me tell you that Blaise would be a VERY, VERY tricky name for a boy to go through school with in England...

Montgomery is the obvious name to please all parties - a place in France, a place in Wales and a fine old traditional name in England.
(and by the way, living with the name Monty has been pretty good..)

Otherwise...
Morgan (trad' Welsh name and famous French rugby player)
Hugo
Zak (no-one on earth can mispronounce it) but must be christened Zachary or Zachariah so he has the choice later in life...
Theo
Xavier
Aled
Bryn
Marc
Gwilym (or Guillaume) or make up a compromised spelling... One of the oldest names in Both Welsh and French.

and if you're feeling a bit Stone Henge and spiritual - Emrys - sounds GREAT in a French accent.

from the OP, so one side doesn't have ownership of the name. The OP suggested Blaise as the first name, her DH said OK to Blaise but as a second name let's chose something we both like as a first name, but they can't...

BTW Blaise is not a very nice french name. Henry Blaise sounds better than Owen Blaise, even if on the whole Owen is the better name.

And doesn't leave one partner having full control/ownership of all parts of the name..

Ideally though I think you both need to go back to basics and come up with more options if you can't agree on the ones you have so far.

I am aware I am probably lowering the tone slightly, but there is a Harry Potter character called Blaise Zabini (Slytherin) whose mother was considered to be a 'black widow'.

Just thought I should mention it with the whole Blaise plus Italian surname thing.

I prefer Owen blaise.

Assuming that your ds with have the Italian surname I think Owen (your side) blaise (your dh's French heritage) and surname (your dh's Italian heritage) seems to cover all bases.

Owen Blaise is lovely,

Whose choice is surname? DSs have DP surname so I got priority on first name. DDs got my surname so he chose their first names.

I prefer Henry (sorry op!). Have you thought about the Welsh name Ieuan? (Yiyoon). I like the sound of that and think it works well with the middle name.

You shouldn't just give in to what he wants, if you can't agree scrap everything and start again or you will end up resenting it.
Fwiw I love Blaise,
Owen Blaise would be my choice if Blaise is definitely out as a first name.
But I really do think you need to forget the lot and start again after a few days with new options.

I'm not keen on Blaise for a first name. You just have to keep going and writing lists till you get there in the end. You could ask for some family input. (But only if they agree with you.)

Alexander Blaise?

Of the names suggested by posters I think Adam goes really well with Blaise.

I like Sébastien, Max & Tristan.

All lovely with Blaise as a mn.

I am sorry to say this, but I much prefer your DH's list, sorry.

Christian and Tristan are rather similar in sound, can you choose together from those?