Baby due any day now....

The way I think about names is that unless they hate it so much that they legally change it (which would be sad because they'd be rejecting the name you chose) the child will have that name forever. So you have to pick a name which will suit them not only as a little girl but when they're 30...40...50...

You also want them to be able to become whatever they choose in life. They might be the head of a big multi-national business someday, and will need to be taken seriously. You never know! It would be nice if the name allows them to define themselves. Of course, the final choice lies with you, baby names are a delicate subject! So I hope this doesn't offend.

Have you considered names which can be shortened, like Katharine (or other spelling variants) which can be shortened to Kitty? If she were technically Katharine/Katherine/Kathryn/Catherine, then Kitty is a recognised pet name or shortened version of that, and you could call her Kitty from the start. That way if she prefers to be Katherine at work when she's older, she can be, but she'll be known as Kitty outside work because she always has been! It's just like Sam for Samuel or Tom for Thomas.

It would be harder to do that for Posy (have you considered Penelope/Penny for short? It's got the same sweet appeal), and I know what you mean about the name Lola, although I'm sure there are many Lola's out there who don't fit that description. It's a matter of preconceptions. I know people who hate their names because they feel people make up their minds about the sort of person they are without knowing them. The first gift you give to your child is life, the second is a name they will probably have forever. Choose wisely, and all the best with the baby.

I don't think you can have Kitty with Tabitha, sorry. In my class one year I had two Kittys, a Felix and a Rex - all nice names but put together I felt like I was working in a pet shop!

Posy is cute. Not sure about on an adult but I don't know that it's really a short for anything. I know one and think she is just Posy. It will probably come to seem as normal as Poppy and Lily have so will be fine.

I don't really like Lola. Not sure why I think it's the combination of 'oh' and 'll' sounds.

If you like names in that vein have you considered (as either short versions of other names or standalones):
Annie, Abbie, Allie, Bonnie, Bessie, Betsy, Bronte, Brodie, Bridie, Briley, Cassie, Callie, Carrie, Casey, Chloe, Demi, Darcey, Dixie, Dulcie, Ellie, Evie, Edie, Esme, Elsie, Florrie, Georgie, Gracie, Hallie, Hayley, Honey, Holly, Hebe, Indie, Ivy, Jessie, Josie, Jody, Kaylie, Kerry, Kelsey, Kenzie, Lily, Libby, Lottie, Lexie, Lacey, Livvy, Lindy, Lizzie, Molly, Millie, Macie, Miley, Marley, Marnie, Maddie, Nancy, Poppy, Polly, Peggy, Penny, Rosie, Ruby, Riley, Sadie, Shelby, Sydney, Susie, Sally, Sylvie, Tilly, Tansy, Trixie, Vicky, Wendy, Xanthe, Zoe.

I like Lola best. Also like Leila / Layla / Leah / Lily.

Don't think you can have Kitty with Tabitha.

Dislike Posy.

Other suggestions:
Annie
Betty
Betsy
Carley
Ellie
Ella
Florrie
Georgie
Gracie
Janey
Jemima
Kayla
Lottie
Millie
Molly
Rosie
Willow

I like Lola best,the only one I know has very cool parents and I would never in a million years think of it as chavvy.

Lola - so chavvy here. Was cool a looooong time ago. I would personally steer clear but then I am not a fan of any of the Leah/Lacey/Lexi/Layla names as find them all a bit chav.

Posy and Kitty are adorable, Posy could be a name on its own. A baby will grow into their name and the name will grow up with them.

Posy could have come from Rose: rosy posy.

Kitty is the only one of those names I like.
But I don't think it works with Tabby cos of the cat connection.

Really dislike Posy cos it sounds like posing.

Lola is a very very common name round these parts.

There are some lovely names in manic's list.
I particularly like Marnie, Tansy, Nancy and Chloe.

I agree it could be nice to use a long form name with those as the nicknames, if you are worried they are not substantial on their own.

Katherine - kitty
Josephine - posy
Louisa, laurel - Lola ?

I don't think you can have a Tabby and a Kitty tbh, both nice names but I'm having a giggle to myself at hearing someone call out to a Tabby and a Kitty. I think a lot of people will find these two together quite amusing.

Lola is a nice name but the problem with it is the song by the Kinks. Perhaps younger people won't be familiar with the song, having said that my 12 year old knows the song.

Posy is nice, I don't see a problem with it.

I like the name Lola. I know several. I wouldn't call their parents chavvy at all. And I really don't find it as cutesy.
Best of luck!

I love Posy, Kitty is nice but maybe not with Tabby, dislike Lola. Primrose shortened to Posy would be nice, just throwing that out there!

I love the name Kitty - and I think it would be sweet to have Tabby as a big sister! Posy is lovely too.

I wanted Tabitha desperately for DD!

I liked Milly as well but DH said that was too cutesy so we settled on Emily so I can still call her Milly (or Emmy) for short.

Also, how about Freya?

I think if you like Posy, it is fine to use on it's own, as you say it is a name in it's own right.

I wouldn't call someone a longer name like Primrose and then always shorten it to Posy. If I wanted Posy I'd just go for Posy.

I like the Kinks song too.

I like Posy best out of your choices
It makes me think of the youngest Fossil in Ballet Shoes