We had decided on Rufus Caspar.
It was perfect.
We knew no other child with the name,it creates the NN Ru which I adore (can't use rupert or Reuben either),it's not popular but not unknown,it has no terrible associations,it goes brilliantly with our other DC names,and it's cool dammit.
But now a sort-of-relative-family-friend has used it for her PFB,and it will look like we've copied and I know it's childish but I do care about that for some reason.
It's taken me months to settle on a name and now I have to start all over again
It's Not Fair!
HELP ME