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If hearing your new baby's name said out loud makes you wince...

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Dylemma · 28/09/2013 04:45

You should probably change it, right?

Or does it grow on you?

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rootypig · 28/09/2013 05:06

Change it. It'll get worse.

What is the name? [nosy]

tammytoby · 28/09/2013 07:19

Do you actually like the name?

fuckwittery · 28/09/2013 08:12

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Yika · 28/09/2013 08:31

Change it. Although I found it odd at first saying or hearing my newborn's name out loud, like she was a real person and all. :)

But she has a plain, classic name so I knew it wasn't the name per se.

miffybun73 · 28/09/2013 12:13

Change it if it's bad enough to make you wince.

IHeartKingThistle · 28/09/2013 12:16

Why are you wincing?

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PetShopGirl · 28/09/2013 12:46

I don't know what the right decision for you is, but it took me a long time to get used to hearing/saying DS's name out loud. To be honest it's only really now, at 10 months, that it's starting to properly bed in and I'm really glad we chose it. I think it helps that he's developing his own distinct personality to attribute the name to, if you see what I mean.

I never seriously considered changing his name, but for a long time I felt quite uncomfortable with it and would worry we'd chosen the wrong one. However, my test was to occasionally think of him as being called one of the other names on our shortlist - say it out loud/imagine other people saying it out loud - and that didn't sound right either. My conclusion was that it was probably more to do with the fact I couldn't get my head round having a baby full stop. We had a long and rocky path to having him and for a long time thought it would never happen, and I think for me it felt a bit weird to suddenly be mentioning him casually in conversation like a 'normal' mum. Obviously those are slightly unusual circumstances though.

Rooners · 28/09/2013 12:52

Change it now.

Floggingmolly · 28/09/2013 12:56

Didn't you know what it sounded like? Confused

BrianTheMole · 28/09/2013 12:57

Don't you like the name any more? What is it?

Bowlersarm · 28/09/2013 12:58

It might take some getting used to especially if you didn't chose it until th baby was born.

I wouldn't have thought it should make you wince, though.

BrianTheMole · 28/09/2013 12:58

Agree with petshopgirl.

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Dylemma · 28/09/2013 13:48

It was on my short list but DH didn't really like it. Then, after the birth we just couldn't decide at all and he went home to think and suddenly, between him and our older child, they chose this one. I was quite pleased he'd come round to one and went for it. I wasn't forced into it, I fully agreed at the time.

But I am now realising it wasn't my favourite from my list and I think I wish I'd picked another. Trouble is, the other name DH doesn't like at all and I know I would have to feel very strongly about it to change to it. And I suppose I don't or I'd have done it by now...

Also v.concerned about looking a total idiot after telling everyone the name already.

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Layl77 · 28/09/2013 20:16

If it helps I also feel a bit strange giving a little bundle of squishy baby a proper persons name and always wince a bit at first with mine but get used to it!

youbethemummylion · 28/09/2013 20:19

My Ds2s name did not suit him as a baby it is a mans name really not a babies name but now he is 3 I cant imagine him being called anything else.

jnl0612 · 28/09/2013 20:20

DD1 had her name from my 20 week scan, then I heard my x mil say it out loud. It made me CRINGE. So it got changed

rachyconks · 28/09/2013 20:23

What petshopgirl said. My DD has quite an unusual name (it's a classic name, but not used often). It also has the traditional spelling which is also uncommon. It's taken me 10 months to be sure it was right, but now she is definitely her name. Nothing else would suit. BUT I always knew at the back of my mind it was right, it was just hard to get used to calling her anything other than baby! If you really don't think it's right, you should consider changing it.

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Dylemma · 28/09/2013 20:45

Appreciating your replies.

If a friend if yours did this, would you think them ridiculous?

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UpTheFRIGGinDuff · 28/09/2013 21:35

My DD is 5,and I still regret not changing her name when she was a baby.

I wouldn't think you were mad at all,but you do need to be very sure...

rootypig · 28/09/2013 22:30

I wouldn't think you were ridiculous - your baby, your choice. But upthefrigginduff is right, this is a one shot game!

ZenNudist · 28/09/2013 22:37

How old is your newborn? It's not that unusual for people to change their baby's name. I've definitely known this to happen. But what is the name? Why do you wince?

Thewhingingdefective · 28/09/2013 22:40

My sister spent most of her pregnancy calling her baby by the chosen name and even announced that name when he was born, but two days later changed it something totally different that she had mentioned liking, just once, briefly at the start of her pregnancy. Everyone just sort of shrugged and went 'yeah okay.'

MrsMongoose · 29/09/2013 00:44

Surely you need DH to be on board with the new name?

PrincessFlirtyPants · 29/09/2013 00:52

Goodness no, there are worse things my friends do Wink

Is there a name you both like and can agree on?