mum's surname or dad's?

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lovelilies · 26/09/2013 23:07

unmarried parents.. which surname will/have you given your dc?
I honestly have no idea what to do...

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pickledparsnip · 26/09/2013 23:47

Both, officially. We just mostly use mine on it's own though. No way I was going to give my son someone else's surname when we weren't married. Mind you I woulld never take anyone else's name if I got married. I love my unusual surname, not ever going to give it up .

kiwik · 26/09/2013 23:45

I'm married, but didn't change my name, as it would be too rhymey with DH's surname.
Our DCs have all got DH's surname, which is a pain as it actually rules out loads of names. (Ends with ley, so can't use any names ending with an e sound.)

laughingeyes2013 · 26/09/2013 23:32

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laughingeyes2013 · 26/09/2013 23:32

I used my name until I married the father, I was determined not to have a different surname at the school gate to our child if I didn't have to, as i knew is be the one going to all the appointments, and because you'd have to get content for a name change if you split up in the future (hopefully not obviously, but stranger things gave happened!) and who would really give their name away that easily?

slightlysoupstained · 26/09/2013 23:28

Giving yours means you can actually re-register later if you get married and want to change surname then. For some reason, if you give the father's surname now, you are not allowed to change it on re-registering.

www.cheshireeast.gov.uk/community_and_living/register_office/registering_a_birth/re-registering_a_birth.aspx

Giving yours is the simplest option. If you're not sure, this at least allows you the possibility of changing your mind later, to double-barrel, dad's name, or whatever!

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lovelilies · 26/09/2013 23:26

I do feel strongly about having the same name as my dc... dd1 gas my name. DP (not dd's father) really wants the baby to have his name... I've said I want us all to have the same name, and if we marry we'll change the childrens names... but he's not happy

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UpTheFRIGGinDuff · 26/09/2013 23:20

Both.

Our DC have mine-DP's (flows better)
if you don't want to double barrel though I would definitely use yours for the same reasons as 5MadThings suggested.

jellybeans · 26/09/2013 23:14

I would keep mine and did do with DD1. We both changed to DHs when got married.I didn't want different to my child as primary carer.

5madthings · 26/09/2013 23:10

Ours are double barrelled, mine-dps.

If not married I would double barrel or give yours, if you get married and change your name you can then change the child to his name later.

Of you give his name and then split up you won't be able to change it to your name,e without his permission.

Depends if you at ebothered by your child not having your name?

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