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Oh pants

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anotherbitofcake · 24/09/2013 18:10

My friend has just chosen the name we were going with. Had a cry - bloody hormones - and now had a word with myself to not be so silly :-( anyone else had this? Trouble is not really sure of any other names....

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anotherbitofcake · 24/09/2013 20:05

Watching bake off and drinking tea pretending its wine :-)

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StrawberryMojito · 24/09/2013 20:04

I would use the name anyway unless the girls were going to grow up close and attend the same school etc.

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anotherbitofcake · 24/09/2013 20:03

We are close and see each other a lot

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anotherbitofcake · 24/09/2013 20:02

Really? I think I'd feel like people were thinking I was copying them. Urgh so pathetic. Will sleep on it. There are more important things to worry about that's for sure. Still feeling pathetically sorry for myself though ha ha thanks x

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looki · 24/09/2013 20:00

How close is your friend? Do you see each other all the time etc? Will the babies be weeks or months apart?

Its easier said than done to use the same name as someone you are friendly with.

My colleague was pregnant at the same time as me and one of my big fears was that she would use my girls name. Throughout the pregnancy I made a point of not talking about names etc and kept hoping my baby would be born first as it would have been hard to go back to work feeling I had 'copied' her name. Sounds irrational in hindsight but I am pregnant again and the same fears are occurring (this time with the wives of two of DHs childhood friends). I want my baby to have her 'own' name among our circles if that makes sense?

elcranko · 24/09/2013 19:11

Tell your friend that that was the name you were planning on using and that unless you can think of one that you love as much to use instead, then you intend to still use it.

BishBashBoshBoo · 24/09/2013 18:44

I would just stick with it. Just politely say to your friend that's what you were planning (NB Do not ask) and that you're going to stick with it.

Dh told me we couldn't call dd our favourite name as his close pal's dd was called that. dd is now 6. we've seen his pal twice in that time.
Whilst I love dd's name now it still hurts a bit that we didn't use our favourite name.

No-one owns a name. Just use it.