Tyler for boy

Danceswithwolves - you said, "I occasionally make snap judgements about people based on their taste in clothing....*

And I'm just asking why is it ok to make judgements about people based on that, but not on their names?

Everlong - I was kind of close, I will remember that now! Thanks

where did I specify I was talking about names?
Ahem, in the bit that says make positive and negative associations with certain names and that's just human! Everyone does it!!

As for accusing me of hypocrisy - did you actually read my post? I specifically said I am guilty of a lot of things, but not this one. I was challenging your assertion that and that's just human! Everyone does it!! - honestly, when it comes to names, I don't. I don't believe everyone does. In fact, aside from KH and posters on MN, I've never known anyone do it.

Maybe an awards ceremony should be held, we could have a vote on who comes 1st, 2nd or 3rd.

I suggested Tyler to my husband yesterday and although he didn't say yes, he didn't say no either. In my eyes it means it can go on my list!

This is the absolute best thread for finding out who the MN Snob Brigade is.

danceswithwolves - in the aspect of my post which you highlighted where did I specify I was talking about names? I didn't. I said people make judgements based on a variety of things, including dress sense which you have admitted you do. Making a snap judgement is making a snap judgement for whatever reason you do it.

Why is it ok to do it based on someone's dress sense but not their name?
It sounds a bit hypocritical I think?

Everlong - no I wasn't I genuinely couldn't remember what term the poster had actually used! I didn't want to spend ages trawling back over all the posts but for some reason the words kitchen sink kept popping into my head. I just used that and hoped people would know which post I was referring to

Every day in every walk of life people make positive and negative associations with certain names and that's just human! Everyone does it!! Any person who says they never make snap judgments about people (based on whatever aspect) is telling porkies I think.

Well I really don't. I'm guilty of a lot of things - I have in the past laughed on here at combinations of names I think are silly, I hate certain shops and supermarkets and just don't go in there because I just don't like them, I occasionally make snap judgments of people based on their taste in clothing - I'm not trying to say I'm perfect. But genuinely, I have never, ever, made a snap judgment about a person because of their name. If I really am in the minority, I think it is a sad reflection on society.

I don't like Tyler, sorry.

Sometimes people get a little het up and take it personally if someone says, for example, that a name is boring or common. At no point did that person say that the person with that name was boring or common. But it's sometimes what the OP hears all the same.

Of course, sometimes people are just rude. That happens too.

If I put up a post asking for opinions, I'd rather people said why and gave me some feedback rather than just saying 'I don't like it'. If I didn't care what people thought/would think of a particular name, I wouldn't post in the first place.

I agree. I happen not to like some names. That's fine. Everyone has personal tastes. Being rude and prejudiced isn't fine.

Some people are very rude, what's wrong with simply saying you don't like it?

Oops ,ignore that.

Bloody kindle

raven

My dp is the same (I mentioned unthread he's a teacher), he definitely thinks it's the individual not the name.

AAAAAq

MrsDeVere - she said it herself one day and also said she wondered what went through her parents heads as her siblings are all called rather boring names...........

I had always wanted an Edmund (nn Ned) until I moved here - bit like calling him Chav in England!

Lucky my ds (Edmund, nn Ned) & his mate Tyler don't realise the extent to which they are doomed, then!

I'm a teacher. IME name-judginess is something inexperienced teachers do; once you're a bit more confident you find yourself more able to entertain the notion that Deshany-Shania is actually lovely whereas her bff Elizabeth is a monumental PITA, say...

I knew a Crystal when I was younger too. No idea what she's doing now. She was 5/6 years older than me and when I was little I thought she was the coolest girl ever work the most pretty name.

I used to go to school with a girl called Crystal - she was really shy bless her but perfectly nice and very clever.

I've worked worked with a solicitor called Krystal. I'd love to see what some would assume someone with that name, spelled that way, would say about it.

To be fair I would suggest to someone liking the name Crystal that they spell as such but other than that, no assumptions made.

Innit,MrsDV.

Who cares what people think before they meet the child??

That's what I don't understand??

All that matters is what the child is actually like - surely?

People have pre-conceived ideas about names, I just don't get why it's such an issue? I'm sure that once they have met the child/family their opinion will probably completely change anyway.

I'm not a teacher but work in a job where I'm constantly exposed to children and so I hear about 101 different names every month. Some I love and some I think but that doesn't mean I'm judging the child, it means I'm making a judgement about their name.