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Do you discount names you love based on popularity?

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littlepeas · 29/07/2013 10:58

I'm not that bothered - my dc have top 100 names - but I really love Sophia and find the popularity is putting me off. Should I just pretend that the top 100 doesn't exist?? The other contenders are Imogen, Hermione and Lucia - the only name that has no issues at all (matching sibling initial, insane popularity, alliteration with surname, possible confusion around pronounciation, slightly iffy meaning when considered alongside the meaning of my dd's name) is Imogen - does that mean it wins by default?!

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bizboz · 30/07/2013 13:22

No, I was the only one with my name in my school and being a shy child I hated the fact that I stood out. I was pleased that the names I chose for my daughters are quite popular. DD2 is actually a Sophia and I love it. I've met a few others since she was born but none of the same age. Choose a name that you like

Southeastdweller · 30/07/2013 13:20

I may feel differently if/when I get to the stage of having children but popular names don't do anything for me. I've a slightly unusual name and liked the feeling of knowing I was the only one with my name in my year at Primary school and even at secondary I only knew of a couple. Twenty years on I still rarely meet anyone with it. It's a slightly classic name (and some would say wet) but it's never been popular and I'd like this for possible future DC's. I can't even think of any slebs who've named their kids with it.

So, none of your Lilah's or Jack's for me, thanks! I love the name Jude for a boy but it's too popular now.

shoobidoo · 30/07/2013 11:50

Yes, because a name has a purpose (to identify someone). If thousands of children share the same name, the purpose is defeated.
We have 4 Harrys and 3 Charlies in our beavers group - can be a little confusing at times (esp as 2 share the same surname)!

wigglesrock · 30/07/2013 07:28

All my daughters have popular names, my 8 year old is Sofia Smile

I've posted this before but when dd2 started school last year, there were a few repeat names in her year, one of them was a variant on a girls name that is very unusual.

My dd3 has a name that is usually quite well liked on MN, I'm tripping over them here, so it's very regionally loaded as well.

Mrsindecision · 29/07/2013 22:20

Out of interest, I've just checked the stats for the year of my dd's birth, and rather interestingly, when she started school there were 3 duplicate names in her class (2 of each name). Duplicate name 1 was ranked around number 200 for that year, duplicate name 2 was ranked around number 250, and duplicate name three was outside the top 500! There were no other duplicates in the class. If you choose a name just to be different, you may be very disappointed to discover that your DC is not the only one about!

racingheart · 29/07/2013 22:04

littlepeas, Sophia is my all time favourite girls name (I had boys) and I wouldn't have been able to resist it. G for it. It's stunning. Also depends where you live. Round here Ellas and Amelies are ten a penny but there are no Sophias at all.

Layl77 · 29/07/2013 22:02

I get this meditrina- it stupidly annoyed me that next road to us has my dc2's name which is nowhere near top 100! Wouldn't be bothered about dd1 as its more popular I just like it

meditrina · 29/07/2013 21:59

Sophia/Sophie/Sofia etc, when added together, was the "true" number one name for 2011, and I expect it will be strong for a little while to come.

Evie (and variants) was in the "true" second place.

The ONS stats for 2012 aren't out for another couple of weeks. So when you are naming your baby, you won't know what the latest trend is (and depending which month you have your baby, the lists coukd be very badly out of date).

Personally, if the name is a classic one (like Sophia) then I'd go for it anyway. It's popular because it's lovely, and as it's been in use for centuries, a few years of popularity isn't going to make much difference on a life-long basis (unlike "newer" names which mark the generation in which they emerge, like say Tracey).

And although it may be annoying to have two or three with the same name at school (the only years when you are closely with an age cohort), would it be better of worse if sod's law meant there was a second child with your "rare" name than if there was another of a more ordinary name which you loved but never expected to be unique?

MrsBungle · 29/07/2013 21:48

It would put me off tbh. I always loved Isobel. I just couldn't contemplate it, though, due to popularity. I have an unusual name and always liked being the only one.

Layl77 · 29/07/2013 21:44

I would be more bothered about a recurring top 10 name (jack, Harry, Emily Jessica Chloe) that have been popular for years than ones that seem to come for a year them go as a 'trend'
If you love a name you will love it regardless of whether your child isn't the only one with the name in the playgroup. I wouldn't choose a unique name that is not popular because its not nice just to be out-there

Helspopje · 29/07/2013 21:35

We obviously think similarly - I have an Imogen Sophia Rose. She is just 3 and we have met 2 others - one a sales assistant at John Lewis who was 20ish and another is an A Level student at a local school.
Everyone told me it was 'v common' (i'd have prefered them to say 'popular') but we haven't met any little Imogens despite being on the look-out for them

Countless Sophia/sophies, Eva/Evie/Avas, Graces and Mia/Mya/Mayas, but no Imogens.

Bizarrely, the names of my youth are the ones you dont see on littlies now - never met a baby Helen or Sarah or Cla(i)re.

Mrsindecision · 29/07/2013 21:29

I have to say that I disagree with LadyLech and personally wouldn't abandon a name I loved because of popularity as you may regret using another you like less. My DS has a very popular name (has been in the top 10 for well over a decade or so) and it has never caused a problem for him (in fact he doesn't know many others and there are no others in his class at school) and I still love his name as much as ever. My DD has a much less common name (outside the top 800 when we choose it) and I have surprisingly come across a number of others including another one in her year group at school! You just never can tell!

LadyLech · 29/07/2013 20:50

Yes, very popular names do put me off.

My DD1 had a name that at the height of its popularity got to 80 odd, she is the only child with her name in her school (about 200 children).

DDs full name was within the top 75-100, but her nickname was not in the top 100 at all. There are two girls, with her name at the school - the other girl is called by her full name, and my DD is known by her nickname.

I didn't worry about anything 75+, but I certainly avoided anything in the top 50. Largely because I was a teacher, and I have seen some interesting names children have been known as when there are too many of them. At secondary school, they may not know each others surnames, and may even share the same initial. Once I taught a group of Bens in the same class and they were known by the other students as sporty Ben, ginger Ben, tall Ben and thick Ben. Another time, I taught a class with several girls called Amy, one was known as Amy microphone head due to her unfortunate haircut. A third example was two Charlottes, and I remember someone asking me whether it was pretty Charlotte or the other one! I could give lots more examples, but these are the most memorable.

For this reason, I avoided anything too popular.

Wbdn28 · 29/07/2013 19:09

Go for the name you like best. Even the most popular names are only given to a small percentage.

sleepingbeautiful · 29/07/2013 16:47

Yes, top 10 or 20 names put me off because I was always name.initial at school and I didn't like that. I think we are safe with DS's name, but DD's seems be increasingly popularity as a newish 'sleb unfortunately shares it

StrangeGlue · 29/07/2013 16:47

I let the top 100 put me off long listed baby names iyswim but I wouldn't have let it put me off names I loved.

squoosh · 29/07/2013 16:42

In my case familiarity does breed contempt.

looki · 29/07/2013 16:37

Yes it puts me off considerably more than it should tbh. I certainly won't use a name from the top ten but being in the 20s wouldn't bother me so much.

I always thought I'd use the name Sophie but its popularity has turned me off it completely. Silly I know.......

MissTweed · 29/07/2013 16:34

The other thing to remember is that the name table are out of date even as soon as they have been released!! The current one is for 2011 (2012 being released next month I believe) so the current stats are from 2 years ago!!! What was top ten then wont be what it is during 2012 and won't be what it is now!! I know that Stanley, henry, Edward, Albert, Matilda, Martha, Imogen and Tabitha are really really popular RIGHT NOW (I work in a hospital so see newborn names) but these aren't shown in the out of date tables. So you could pick a name thinking it was way down the table but everyone else could be doing the same and that name is suddenly top 10!! Who would of thought Stanley or Albert would get so popular?? Basically, don't worry about the tables.... It's changes constantly!

Frikadellen · 29/07/2013 15:47

Yes it puts me off and I was gutted when dd1's name went in on the highest riser the year she was born.. it has kept a certainpopularity (in the late 20's) for years now (She is 15) but I do love the name (Phoebe) so not regretted it but I really didnt want that popular a name. None of the other 3 have

JRmumma · 29/07/2013 15:40

I don't think many people actually think to check the tables when choosing names and so most clearly aren't bothered by popularity. Nothing wrong with having a popular name, its just something i would like to avoid. But at the same time i wouldn't use something too obscure either.

Smartiepants79 · 29/07/2013 14:46

No.
Our 7 month old is called Evie. I had no idea it was apparently so popular until I started reading it on here! I just loved it.
I simply do not understand why people are so bothered by a name being popular.

JamieandtheMagicTorch · 29/07/2013 14:45

We can help find another name you love, and there are no issues with. Smile

littlepeas · 29/07/2013 14:44

My dd's name is also an s initial, so that is a bit of a concern as well. Our preferred boy's name also begins with an s, so I'm obviously drawn to it!

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JamieandtheMagicTorch · 29/07/2013 14:41

I gave DS2 a name that I thought was uncommon, turned out it is common.

It annoys me a bit, TBH. In a way I wish we'd used his second name, which is less of a faddy name.

He likes his name and it suits him, though.

It was harder to find a name for him in the first place, because he was out second boy and there were only a few names we could agree on.

If you love a name, it might annoy you more, or less. Depends.

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