Hi all,
Some may have seen my various other threads trying to find a name I could really 'bond' with.
We're having a little DS2 and although I am over the moon about him, I am a little gutted too as I don't want more children and would have really loved a girl. Part of the problem being we had a great girls name picked out but are really not agreeing on boys.
DH is French and his family are quite old fashioned - happy we're having a boy to continue the 'family name' & it's tradition in their family to use the paternal grandfathers name as the baby's name.
I put my foot down on that long ago before even TTC. But the problem is I now desperately want to use the name Russell, after my dad who I loved so much & who died shortly after the birth of DS1. DH won't even entertain the idea....he likes really flowery exotic names like Dartagnon, Thibault, Raphael, Cassius etc.
My issue is that having this baby hadn't been all easy for me. Left to my own wishes I wouldn't have chosen to have another baby at all, but DH took myself and my son on and is amazing to both of us - having children of his own was always a top priority for him so I always knew I would have to. Now baby is a boy (which is ok) but again exactly what DH, not me, wanted and all his family are treating it like some sort of Family Heritage Asset.
I just really want a name that MEANS something. & that doesn't sound ridiculous on a white, probably redhead, 1/2 English child. I think I'd feel embarrassed if a name like Raphael - which I do actually like - was called out in a drs surgery, or I was shouting it in the park.
How do I make DH see how much using my dads name would mean to me, and why I can't use one of his choices? He just keeps saying 'we've got a long time to discuss' (20 weeks) but I feel I can't bond with bump without a name...