Parents hate our first choice name

And for what it's worth, I didn't used to like it, but it's really grown on me.

It's not old ladyish. I know a 6yo Meredith, but no old ladies. I guess your in-laws associate it with someone they have known.

Artichook,

In your shoes I would be wishing I had well mannered less self absorbed relatives.

What about offering to let them choose a middle name

What about telling them to butt out and let the baby's parents choose?! They've had their go at naming babies already!

Meredith is a gorgeous name!

I made the mistake of telling my mother the name we'd chosen for DS, she said she hated it and would never call him by that name.

Needless to say we never told her what we planned to call DS2!

Just ignore her, you will always get people who don't like the name you choose. As long as you and your DH like it, go for it!

Well it is difficult if they hate the name. But there is absolutely nothing wrong with Meredith. It's a perfectly nice acceptable name. What about offering to let them choose a middle name.

Meradith is lovely

My DD isn't called what I'd have liked because my mum and sister laughed and said it just made them think of an annoying celeb.

I used it as her second name instead, she and I still like it and I wish I'd used it

Her name is pretty, but far too common.

This is why there should be a leaflet handed out when you have your midwife booking in appointment about the importance about never discussing baby names in advance. At this stage, they think it's not set so they can negatively comment and influence your choice. If you had waited until their new granddaughter had arrived and annouced her name, they probably wouldn't say anything negative because it was too late at that stage to change it.

Anyway, it's a lovely name, remember, their names sound like old people's names to you, your parents are hearing the 'granny chic' names and picturing an old woman of their grandparents' generation. they probably haven't spent much time in the company of toddlers to realise. You've picked a very cool and classic name.

We recently named DS a name my in laws hate. They have been very vocal about their hatred and it really bothered me in my post natal, hormonal state. TBH it's taken the shine off the name for me and I wish we'd chosen something less controversial (not that DS has a particularly odd name but I knew in laws would hate it and see it as an 'old man' name). If I could rewind six weeks I'd name him something else I think.

I think if you don't use the name you'll regret it. Seem to remember a couple of comments on baby name threads that go along the lines of- "I told people the name. They didn't like it so I named the baby something else. I wish I'd stuck with the name I like." Call her Meredith- it's not everyday you get to name your own child. Parents and in-laws have had their turn at this.

Never ever tell RL people a name choice especially grandparents because if you do they go buy a dog and name it the name you wanted to use.

I think they have overstepped the boundary here. This child will stretch your body to bursting point, attach itself to you for 6 months or so, deprive you of sleep, drain your bank account and your emotional reserves. The responsibility is yours and although others may offer o help when it suits, ultimately its yours alone. And that's why you are allowed to choose the name! And unless they are going to take n a good portion of this burden, their opinions should never have been expressed in the first place. It's just rude

Never tell!

It's nothing to do with anyone else.

So? Your child, your choice. They got to choose when it was you. Ignore.

I don't understand why anyone would say anything but what a lovely name when told the name of a new baby.

Ignore

My mil did this to us, made me even more determined to use it, and I did. DD is almost 9 and she never mentioned it since, people always say how nice it is and she always agrees with them

It's a lovely name.

There are lots of old-fashioned names being used again these days, so it won't stand out as "old ladyish" at all.

Do not allow your choice to be affected OP. we told my parents our proposed name for DD. They made their feelings plain. In a post c-section haze of drugs, knowing my mum was about to arrive, I made DH agree to change it to something they did like. I liked it too, and it suits DD, but I should have gone with what I liked.

With DS, we announced the name after birth. DF said it was ok, DM hasn't commented on the name to me once which means she thinks its awful. In fact, my cousin told me she to my aunt that DS was "lovely despite the name". But do you know what? I genuinely don't give a shit. We love it. We got a whole raft of compliments.

So, morale of the tale - stick with what YOU like!

Ha! We are calling DD2 Meredith as well.

Honestly, it will be fine, and know that you have the moral high ground over manners forever more!

Love the name Meredith - if they don't like it - suggest Ezmerelda instead

It is a lovely name.I wish I could have used it-it is really beautiful.