Friend has just named their new DD...

Oh wow - Jemima? Really? (sorry I keep saying that!) How is it problematic? I know of a few over here, it seems very much loved.

The name I was thinking of was a boy's name, I'd love to say it but it'll out me

Hi- are your friends from India? It is a very popular name in urban India and I guess they are not aware of the connection. I wouldn't mention it, it's a lovely name and I never thought of Hindley.

I wouldn't. I know an Imelda and my first thought was Imelda Staunton. I've heard other people mention Imelda Marcos. Children won't make the connection, only adults, so they're unlikely to suffer teasing.

Myra Hindley's been dead a while now and Ian Brady's in his 70s so is unlikely to last. Nobody of a younger generation will make the connection.

I think Hindley but I have never heard of another Myra so don't have an other associations.

I wouldn't say anything as it's not an offensive name.

I'm 23 and haven't a clue who Myra Hindley is.

sorry, leapt to a conclusion there. thought you were talking about Jemima which is too problematic to use in America.

I don't think it is a problem and I wouldn't say anything. When I read Myra I thought, that is an unusual name and then thought of a couple of Myras that I know in their 50s/60s.

My dd is called Madeleine, born just over a year before MM went missing. Only one or two people have ever made a connection.

I honestly can't see the problem unless the surname is Hindley.

Adios, really? I don't think it is very common at all. I hope I haven't offended you.

Maybe she could be called Myley/Miley as well for short?

My mum is a Myra and I have a brother called Ian (!)

I honestly don't think the association occurred to my parents when they were naming him in the 80s. Certainly, no-one's ever commented on it. We do joke about how my mum's name is one that will pretty much die out though, which is a shame because people who are not from the UK often comment on what a nice name it is.

I don't think it'll really be that awful if your friend's DD is called Myra. People of her generation won't make the association and although it might cross older people's minds, I doubt they'll comment.

Oh, and she'll be her OWN PERSON, and hopefully not a serial killer.

I think you definitely doing the right thing by not mentioning it.

If she's already named her, then really don't interfere, it would be mean to try and make her doubt herself. And possiy spoil it for her.

I had a friend who did this, and it didn't come across as friend duty or just giving me info, it came across as her being rather unpleasant and causing an issue where there was none. I am not sure what her motivations actually were, but it didn't come across as supportive.

She also gave alternatives, which can't across as her telling me my choice wasn't up to scratch but she felt it was her place to impose her own choice above mine! If it was in the deciding phase then fine, afterwards, not going to go down well!

A name is a name and in most cases takes on the characteristics of the child. Also I would have faith that your friend & her partner have thought about the name and have made a decision they feel is right.

Good luck whatever you decide to do!

rooney, I think I might know what that name is. my now x mil did her best to talk me out of it. she was living in America at the time.

I would just let her know. Just arm her with the information to decide to stick with it or change.

You can't compare it to Fred. Fred was always popular enough that there were other freds and fred doesn't instantly remind me of fred west in the way that Myra does instantly remind everybody of myra Hindley.

please mention this association to your friend - Myra = Hindley to people of all ages.

Hindley was my first thought (25).

I love the name, would like to use it myself but I couldn't do it.

I thought it. But then I wake up looking at the moors every day so I'm biased

I'd mention it but be prepared to lose the friendship over it.

They committed murders in the 60s (I think), 20 years before I was born. But all of my generation are well aware of her.

Myra is unusual and therefore associated with Hindley. Ian is different - common name, to associated particularly with Brady.

Maya would be an alternative?

I'm 27 and Hindley was my first thought.

I wouldn't suggest something else. I'd just mention the associations.

I asked people if my baby's name was likely to have bad associations in their country before I used it. I wanted to know.

Luckily it didn't - but another friend used a name that is kind of unpopular in its native country, and I haven't the heart to tell her - it is a great name but apparently not terribly PC. Her child is now at school anyway so too late!

Sorry to but AKWARD! It's your duty as a friend to tell her.

I don't think you should mention it - if someone did that to me and 'suggested' something else I would think they were rude and interfering tbh.

Or Moira - an oy! in the middle rather than an i sound...similar but not sinister!

I mean imagine if Hindley had been called Susan. Would we all have recoiled in horror at a baby Susan? No.

I think there is a case to be made about social attitudes to female murderers, certainly, and indeed the prevalence of male murderers in comparison to female, in itself.

But in this instance I think it's more a reflection on the name and its uncommonness.