"Reserving" baby names?

What names are in the list - just being nosey!

I have a list of baby names I want for future dc I may or may not have. Wouldnt bother me a jot if someone I knew used the names - there is a finite number of names in the world.

Has she specifically said "dont use...."?

Are you creating a problem where one doesnt exist?

tell her all the names on her list are already reserved by another family member - for their animals so it would be unwise to use any of the names as she may offend uncle or great aunt etc

I have a good friend who has had 2DSs, however when she was expecting the second and didn't know what she was having, she was informed that one of the few names she and her DH could agree on was not 'allowed' as it was her grandmother's name and her older sister (not pregnant) had always said she'd name her DD after their grandmother.

As I said, she had another boy so it wasn't an issue in the end, but I did think it bonkers that they all pandered to this and she had ruled out the name on this basis.

OP - 'reserving' names like this is a sign of someone who thinks they are more important than everyone else, I have no problem with ignoring that. if you like that name, it wouldn't be starting your DCs life on a sour note unless your whole family are in agreement she has a right to do this. You could say that it was always on your name list too...

I don't think there's anything wrong with having a list of names in mind for when u have children..."Reserving" them on the other hand is completely different. U can't tell someone they can't call their child a certain name just because its one u want when u eventually have kids,that's wrong. If u know the names on the list then u can choose not to use them out of respect,especially if they're not names ur likely to pick anyway but if there's one u really really like and want to use then go ahead and use it, like thermals said,its first come first served when it comes to names anyway. I'm sure there's plenty of other names on this list the FM can use when the time comes,plus who's to say she will have enough kids to use all the names or that her future baby daddy will like or agree to using any of them anyway?!

Are you thinking of using the same names? If she has others on her list she can always use one of those, if you've got there first.

I don't think it's funny for her to plan ahead but I do think it's unreasonable of her to expect other friends and family to not use any of the names if they have a baby before she does.

The best way is to keep your list totally secret in your head. If you tell your friends it gives them ideas, and they will nick them and you will feel pissed off. If you don't tell your friends and they still use them, then it's evidence that you were not as original as you thought, and you should just up your game and look elsewhere for a name when it's your turn. If your friend picked 'your' name then chances are so will loads of other people.

She certainly can't bag all of them.

I think it would be very easy to say- after you had named your DC , in a vague way - 'sorry, completely forgot'.

Smile, nod, ignore.

Yes it's bloody ridiculous. Does she pull the list out on first dates?

In what way has she "reserved" them? Has she said she doesn't want anyone else to use them? If so, then she's being unreasonable, obviously. It's first come first served where names are concerned, and even then other people are entitled to choose the same names if they wish.