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DH worried DD may be rather thick set and a pretty name would not suit her!!!

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Madamecastafiore · 13/04/2013 09:36

Right, have no idea if expecting DD or DS but we have a whole raft of boys names we like.

Girls names I like are:

Daisy
Florence
Kitty
Polly
Poppy
Claudia

DH likes Gabriella and keeps saying all my names are pretty names and if daughter is thick set like DH then a pretty name will be odd.

Surname is a colour and about the 3rd most common name in the world!

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Smudging · 17/04/2013 19:29

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BreasticlesNTesticles · 17/04/2013 19:05

I agree with your DH but then I have a Claudia Wink

I agree that "frilly" names need to suit a child in a way more "robust" names don't.

So any dc could be an Elizabeth for example, however if bruiser DD1 was called Fifi it would seem odd. She has a friend called Millie Rose who is a wee dainty little thing, if I had called DD1 that it would have looked like I was taking the piss.

So we considered names like Hermione, Alice, Verity, Katherine, Josephine etc.

The problem comes of course in what you would define as a frilly name. To me Gariella is definitely more frilly than Polly, and Kitty could be a tomboy or a Kit.

TheCatIsUpTheDuff · 17/04/2013 17:23

Your DH has a point. I know a little girl with a flowery name that really doesn't suit her - she's a sturdy little thing, and couldn't be less like a delicate little flower if she tried. It's not a criticism of the child, she's bright and playful and inquisitive and fab, but she's not flower-like at all.

HerrenaHandbasket · 17/04/2013 14:59

If you like Kitty, maybe call her Katherine and abbreviate it to Kitty?

Tingalingle · 17/04/2013 12:05

I sympathise. DH vetoed Phoebe (my favourite) on the grounds that the only one he knew was nicknamed Beefy which would have suited DD rather too well in all honesty

Kaekae · 17/04/2013 11:57

I really like Polly at the moment.

blueshoes · 16/04/2013 22:08

Indeed, the ranks of the professionally offended.

KittenOfDoom · 16/04/2013 21:41

I think there may be an element of people being offended on behalf of other people (who themselves may not actually have been offended).

blueshoes · 16/04/2013 21:26

Exactly, kitten. What is wrong with big girls? Weight sadly seems to evoke strong emotions, when it should not.

KittenOfDoom · 16/04/2013 20:44

Why do you see it as negative? Big girls can be beautiful too.

JugglingFromHereToThere · 16/04/2013 15:36

Your rather solid DH may be surprised at what a beautiful daughter he can help to produce/create, if my DD and her father are anything to go by Smile

He does seem to be being a little negative here before she's even arrived !

Phoebe47 · 16/04/2013 15:24

Polly - the best name on your list. I have one and she is gorgeous. Get lots of compliments on her name and she is the only one in her school.

DonkeysDontRideBicycles · 16/04/2013 08:22

Going back to your list of names OP something about them reminded me of Jilly Cooper titles (I know, I know) so here are some of her heroines:

Harriet
Emily
Bella
Octavia
Prudence
Lisa

pinkyredrose · 16/04/2013 04:12

blueshoes sounds like a smug arrogant arse.

SkinnyLove · 16/04/2013 03:45

I think its sensible to consider descriptive names. I was a porky kid pre puberty and would have been tortured had i been called somethung like grace....half of the names people use these days conjure up little fairies wafting about in pink tutus - not the reality for everybody (and why should it be).

nooka · 16/04/2013 03:35

Seems like a reasonable concern but it makes his name choice a bit surprising as it's the most 'pretty' of the list. I'd say with a bit of a run of the mill type surname it might be worth choosing something more distinctive so your prospective dd doesn't end up being 'big Flo' just because she's slightly larger than another Florence (I had a big Hannah and little Hannah in my class at school, which didn't make either of them very happy).

Sounds like you both need to find some more names until the right one jumps out at you. I like elegance for girl's names with a couple of nn options depending on what sort of character they turn out to be, so Elizabeth could be a tom boy Liz/Beth, or a sweet Betty/Elsie or a elegant Elizabeth as an example.

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Madamecastafiore · 16/04/2013 02:04

DH is just over six foot and weighs about 14 stone I think. He runs 10 miles 4x a week but is getting a tummy, rest of him is perfectly adequate as 40 odd year old men go.

I am 5'7" and size 12, am apple shaped but work my hardest not to end up like a ball on sticks.

So unlikely that dd would be a gigantic child. DS is just not very delicate and can look a bit chubby inbetween the shooting up phases but he weighs a bloody tonne. I haven't been able to lift him for about 3 years.

Dd is tall, nearly as tall as me but skinny as a rake but DH no her father.

So unlikely another dd will be manhoodive but think DH so excited about finally having another child that he wants to cover every base and make sure her name really suits her.

By thick set he means more set like a prop forward than a ballerina.

Thanks for all your comments about the names. I still like Kitty but nothing has bowled me over in the girls names department.

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OkayHazel · 16/04/2013 01:53

Is it a legitimate concern though - are you both Viking sized?

If you're not any more likely than the rest of us to have an Olympic women's shotputter for a child, don't worry about it.

MummyBurrows · 16/04/2013 01:07

Weight issues,no,body image,yes (short and very slim-size6/8-with big boobs-natural dd's-bt they looked fake until I went up a dress size and became more "in-proportion"). I didn't really like being told i looked like a barbie doll or that I had fake tits coz nobody would believe me that they were real!...So not quite right ;) xx

blueshoes · 15/04/2013 23:57

Ah mummyburrows, so you DID have weight issues then ... sorry to hear that but it sort of proves my point.

KittenOfDoom · 15/04/2013 23:02

I know a couple who are like Hagrid and Madam Maxime Grin Chances are their children are not going to be tiny waif-like creatures.

MummyBurrows · 15/04/2013 22:58

Why would it mean that anyone has weight issues though?that is my point. I wasn't saying ur comment was specifically aimed at me,I was trying to make the point that "bristling" or not about the term "thick set" doesn't mean anyone on here has weight issues so can't see why u would say something that,that's all,not having a go,just think it was a silly thing to say...I know that it doesn't matter what size u are it is possible to have weight issues and b unhappy with ur body image,I've been there myself.xx

blueshoes · 15/04/2013 22:26

Mummyburrows: "Personally I instantly think fat but not so naïve to think it couldn't be meant as stocky.my instant thought on the meaning of the term doesn't mean myself or others have weight issues (I'm a size 8-10!) So that was a pretty silly comment/assumption to make blueshoes.."

You have spectacularly missed my point. You are not bristling at the word "thick-set" are you? So my comment about potentially having weight issues does not apply to you. In any case, someone does not have to be fat to have weight issues (not saying you do, in case you jump to conclusions again). Sometimes it is quite the opposite.

YoniShapedLoveBox · 15/04/2013 13:07

Florence is the best one OP.