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sebastian - marcus - luke

58 replies

herhonesty · 25/03/2013 11:39

right. down to the wire. due weds. DH will only consider the names listed above. i dont actually like any of them but sick of arguing. which would you go with. please dont come up with alternatives, i have already given a list of 30 names i like of which he will not consider any!

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EduCated · 25/03/2013 15:45

How on earth do I appear slightly obsessed?

Google limp wristed. All the hits I got mentioned it being a derogatory term applied to gay men. This is the only context I have ever heard it in. In RL I have only ever heard it used by people of a certain age, where to imply a man may be anything other than perfectly straight is seen as a huge insult.

I am truly surprised to see it here used to describe baby names, of all things. I thought it was a term which was thankfully falling out of usage. Sadly it seems not.

Bumpsadaisie · 25/03/2013 15:41

I don't think you're homophobic. Slightly obsessed though!

Limp-wristed is not a homophobic term. It can be applied to men of any and all sexual orientations.

KittenOfDoom · 25/03/2013 15:39

Take it how you want. I shall move on.

EduCated · 25/03/2013 15:15

The two meanings are intrinsically intertwined. I take it your implying that I'm homophobic?

KittenOfDoom · 25/03/2013 15:13

limp-wristed - describes a man who does not behave in the strong and determined way traditionally expected in men.

describes a man who seems, by his manner, to be gay.

dictionary.cambridge.org/dictionary/british/limp-wristed

It's not me that's being homophobic then, as I was using the first definition.

DreamsTurnToGoldDust · 25/03/2013 15:10

I think your dh needs to back off with his insistence of names and allow a name to come once your ds is born, it should be a name you both like. Congratulations in advance Smile

creativevoid · 25/03/2013 15:09

We have a Luke so I am prejudiced. One of the reasons we chose it is that it doesn't really have any class connotations so works in all settings. However 3 years on I occasionally read a newspaper article about some young thug named Luke beating up an old granny (or something) and I cringe inside. I suppose that's a risk with any name though...

EduCated · 25/03/2013 15:01

And my preference for Seb has nothing to do with a beautiful Belgian man I once, ahem, knew Wink

EduCated · 25/03/2013 15:00

I don't think gay people are limp wristed. I do think limp wristed is a vile, outdated homophobic term used to refer to gay people.

MrsSpagBol · 25/03/2013 14:58

Love Sebastian!!!

LeonieDeSainteVire · 25/03/2013 14:55

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woozlebear · 25/03/2013 14:52

Which distracted me from my original contribution which was that I like Marcus the best for reasons in no way related to an exremely good looking German guy I used to know by that name It was spelled with a K not a C, which I thought made it look cooler.

What names do YOU like OP?

KittenOfDoom · 25/03/2013 14:51

To me it suggests someone a bit feeble, perhaps a bit effeminate - which is NOT the same as gay. Bit of a weedy little wanker who gets sand kicked in his face.

Bumpsadaisie · 25/03/2013 14:50

Why do you think gay people are limp-wristed, EduCated? Confused

ladymia · 25/03/2013 14:50

Come now Kitten, everyone knows what's implied with the homophobic term limp-wristed!

What is YOUR definition of it?

woozlebear · 25/03/2013 14:49

Camp? And straight men can be very camp.

EduCated · 25/03/2013 14:47

What else is limp wristed supposed to imply?

KittenOfDoom · 25/03/2013 14:46

Who said anything about gay?

EduCated · 25/03/2013 14:34

Ok, seriously, limp wristed is ok to use? As in, 'those names will make your baby sound gay'? Hmm

KittenOfDoom · 25/03/2013 14:32

Marcus is the best one. He can be Marc if he prefers it.

Sebastian is a bit too limpwristed Brideshead for me, and Luke always makes me think of liver fluke, which is a nasty disease that farm animals get.

EduCated · 25/03/2013 14:22

'Marcus and Luke always sound a bit limp wristed to me'

What the actual Jeff? Hmm

I love Sebastian/Seb.

ladymia · 25/03/2013 14:20

Yes I also want to add, I have a friend that named her son something she didn't like but her OH insisted on and she can't still bring herself to say it 6 months later she still just calls him baby.

Tell your OH this could affect your ability to bond with your baby, it's important you find a name you both like.

If he's like this over the name what else won't he let you do??

Frogman · 25/03/2013 14:16

Oerrr, sounds like your husband is a bit poncy with names.

mayanna123 · 25/03/2013 14:14

"i dont actually like any of them but sick of arguing"

Please don't give up - you really need to find a name YOU and YOUR DH likes!

Personally I don't the nicknames for Sebastian - Seb/Sebby/Basty - so would choose Marcus.

TrishkanOEUFak · 25/03/2013 14:10

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