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Would you let your husband name your firstborn son...

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MelinaM · 16/03/2013 01:41

I have a major dilema, my husband wants to name our firstborn son after his best friend that sadly died a few years ago. I completely understand the wanting to honour a friend in that way but I absolutely hate the name with a passion! He will not compromise!!!
Has anyone else experience of this?

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Wishfulmakeupping · 16/03/2013 06:25

Have it as a middle name and come up with a new name together- maybe find a name that has a meaning that could be inspired by his friend- brave, strength, hope whatever would work.
www.sheknows.com/parenting/articles/822603/boy-names-with-great-meanings
nameberry.com/list/315/Baby-Names-That-Mean-Hope
Gently point out to DH that the baby needs to have its own identity think using as middle name is a good compromise

exoticfruits · 16/03/2013 06:19

It is emotional blackmail- he will just have to remember his dead friend another way. The second name is quite adequate.

CheerfulYank · 16/03/2013 04:45

Is there a good nickname for the name?

notnagging · 16/03/2013 04:11

Put your foot down op. my dh tried this & so did my mil! Van Gogh was named after his dead brother. Never a good idea in my opinion on that basis alone!

MusicalEndorphins · 16/03/2013 03:32

he has no choice. Both parents should agree on the name. The middle name is a good idea, or maybe instead of his friends first name, would his last name make a good name? Or can you make something out of the friends initials? Or use a name that means friend or brother?

OkayHazel · 16/03/2013 03:04

Your husband cannot do that. You share a child, you share the naming process. It's in your body ffs!

nooka · 16/03/2013 02:20

Children's names need to be loved, or at the very least liked by both parents. It's lovely that he wants to remember his friend, but if you really don't like the name, then sadly he needs to think again.

exoticfruits · 16/03/2013 02:15

All names are a compromise. None of mine have the names that I would have chosen on my own. Just say 2nd name is your compromise -and as far as you will go. Do something else to remember the friend.

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MelinaM · 16/03/2013 01:59

I have suggested that but no it simply won't do!!! :-(

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anonymosity · 16/03/2013 01:43

Can you make it the 2nd name?