Both granny's don't like the names we have chosen

They have had their turn at choosing names so it's not up to them. However Herbert is awful, can you imagine a teenager called Herbert? If you do go with it then give him a nice middle name so he has a choice when he is older. Connie is really lovely.

I like Herbert - my Grandad was a Herbert.

I think it's lovely.

i think your mums need to butt the fuck out. It's YOUR baby and YOUR choice of names.
they had their choice when you were born.

@LittleMilla - I LOVE the name Wilfred! V rude of your in-laws (although sweet that they wrote him a poem)

My MIL said that our dd would be bullied at school because of her name. We went ahead and named her the name we wanted anyway when she was born. We have had nothing but positive reactions from everyone else.

She has since backtracked and is going on about what a beautiful name it is now.

Name your baby whatever you want.

Congrats btw!

My husband's parents refused to call our son his name at first! We named him Wilfred and wanted him to be known as Wilf. They point blank refused and instead called him Freddie. Fil even wrote (and framed!) a poem to Freddie!!

After about a month I went APE and DH had to have a word. Pointing out how incredibly disrespectful they were being.

And now everyone loves Wilf.

Fuckers

Do not let them put you off, my brother went through this with his first. Then i learned never to tell them our names till babies were born. When my last was born we called alfie rang to let my mum know her very word's were you did not and laughing, was so cross , but they never put us off. I think bertie and connie are really lovely name's , do not let them put you off.Just loving bertie so much

My considered opinion on this after having been through this is;

So?

I like your choice of names :)

I never know why people announce them in advance- if you wait until they are here they accept it. Telling them beforehand gives the impression it is up for debate.

Aw trust me when the baby is here they won't mind one bit what the baby's name is they will love that little baby and the baby's name the minute they see him/her, don't let anyone make you disuade you! it's great that you already know the names you want for your little one xoxox

When I was preganat with DC1, I soon realised that I was never going to choose a name that me, DH and every other person in the whole damn world was going to like. So I stuck to finding one that DH and I could agree on, and we just didn't discuss it with the world at large.

Only really rude people will make a comment once your baby is introduced to them as "Little Herbert, Bertie for short". (Such people do exist, however.)

Names tend to skip a generation.. so we think of names such as Sandra/Barbara/Keith/Roger etc as a bit old fashioned, but love "granny" names like Edie, Florence, Ivy etc.. but our parents, will see those granny names as we see the Barbara/Keith's.. if you see what I mean.. so they just have to get with it!

You have to make allowances for fashion.

When I was young (am prob grannys' ages) Herbert was an old man's name, now it is v fashionable.

Apart from a few names which are always around, names come and go. I am [shocked] at some of the names chosen now (not Herbert or Connie) but realise I am just out of date.

I do think of Herbert in terms of "he's a bit of a Herbert" meaning daft/ clueless. I presume that's why his mum laughed. I love Bert and Bertie though, would you entertain the name Albert instead?

Alternatively, stick to your guns and use it as a good learning experience for fending off well-meaning but slightly interfering grandparents.

Love Bertie. They'll get used to it. (Also love Connie)

I'm of the opinion that if you tell people before the birth then people will tell you their views on the name, but if you tell them your baby is called xxxx most people don't say if they don't like it (although mothers are often the exception to the rule).

Regarding your choices whilst I probably wouldn't choose Connie I think it is fine,but sorry I think Herbert is awful. I have an uncle called Herbert but he has always been known as as Herbie, which somehow is sort of OK. As someone upthread said it can be used like wally to mean a bit of an idiot.

I'm afraid if you ask, they will give you their opinion.

You've two choices really: either you go with the name you chose knowing they don't like it, or you choose something else and present them with a fait accompli next time once the baby is born.

"DMiL used to refer to him as 'that one' because she couldn't bring herself to say the name" - that is incredibly rude!

I love both your names.

Your baby your choice of name. We didn't tell anyone at all - didn't want the opinions debate etc. You've chosen lovely names. Don't forget that fashions change and that they would associate Herbert with a different generation to the current crop of babies.

GPs didn't like the name we chose for DD either because there was an unfortunate namesake about 20 years ago but now it's her name and nobody minds it. Just go with it, your DC will grow into whatever name you pick for them.

DH's family all hated DS2s name when he was born. DMiL used to refer to him as 'that one' because she couldn't bring herself to say the name. But the cuter he got, the more they got used to the name and now they love it because they associate it with him. (It's an old fashioned name, like Herbert.)

It is your baby! Our local baby group actually has an Albert (albie) and a Herbert (Bertie) :)

How rude of them!

Irrelevant whether they, or we, like your choices. They are YOUR choices.

It is a name that will date, as it has done in the past. Which is why both grandparents don't like it.

If you don't want their opinion, then don't discuss the names with them.