Both granny's don't like the names we have chosen

Grandparents are often arsey about chosen baby names. I think its two-fold - generational differences and the fact they are no longer in control.

Don't play games with 'worse' names, say you are both agreed, and if they don't like it then that's a pity, but it's really none of their business.

I don't like the names so I am with the grannies. I don't what you meant by asking what the options are. I suppose the options are that you either go ahead regardless with Herbert/Connie, you choose completely different names or you stick with Herbert/Connie but use them as second name and use a different first name.

Op seriously I wouldn't stress too much about it. If you want to call him Herbert/Bertie then go ahead.

My ds is Herbie and I've never heard a bad word when people ask his name. Everyone has different opinions, just do what you and your Dh want to do and screw the rest.

Love Bertie but I agree with pp^^ I'd go with Albert.

Yes it's your choice
But terribly
Old fashioned is Herbert! Connie is pretty

Love Herbert, Albert and Gilbert.
Definitely prefer Bert(ie) to Herbie, but it's your child and therefore your choice, not GP's!

My DParents were quite off about our newest DS's name - and we didn't tell them until after he arrived . Rude! Still, they were the same about our oldest's name at first, too, even though neither are even slightly unusual .

If you both like the names you decided onthen thats all that matters. YOUR baby YOUR choice. I say go for it!
You have to accept that you cant please everyone all of the time and people will always have an opinion and they will delight in sharing if you let them. I think Herbert is lovely with either bertie or herbie as nn.
Variety is the spice of life or we'd all be walking around with the same names looking the same and who wants that -shudder at the thought
Yes some children / people are cruel and tease people because of their name but just as much for other reasons ; where someone lives, the clothes you wear etc, etc so dont be put off.

OP, are you upset
a) because the grannies didn't like the names; or
b) because they told you they didn't like the names.

Would you have preferred it if they lied to you?

Personally, I think Herbert is awful. I think Connie isn't great. But, it's your child and as long as you are confident in your choice then don't worry about other people's taste. As for grannies, well, honesty is the best policy I think, they don't like the names and they told you.

Actually to be completely blunt- Herbert is terrible. Really bad. He will be bullied. Think of the teachers constantly calling out his full name at roll call. Even if you send him private it's still terrible.

Herbert isn't great to be honest. Sounds like a caricature of a little posh annoying child. Bertie is quite cute though- although I would suggest reading 44 Scotland Street by Alexander Macall Smith- the Bertie in this is very funny.

My IL's hated DSS's name (which incidentally he's not that keen on as it's unusual but they now tell him it's lovely), with DS2 DSS told them the options (didn't realise he shouldn't) and they hated the girls name and 'didn't mind' the boys name (but tried to get us to change his middle name), with DS3 (DSS again and this time bollocked for it) they liked the girls name and didn't like the boys name. Tough. Our baby, our name (and DH and BIL both have boring names!). They get used to it and yes we did at one point tell them a ridiculous name to make them realise it could be 'worse'...

Oh and my parents loved all names but wouldn't be so rude as to say they didn't anyway!

We used Elvis as our 'chosen name' even if the baby was going to pop out as a girl. Stopped everyone bothering us really quickly.

I have 5 dgs and can't remember having an opinion on names, they are just Trquin,Shaniqua etc and I love them.

When pregnant with DS we told everyone that he would be called Tarquin if a boy and Shaniqua if a girl. I didn't want to share our real name ideas with anyone as I didn't want them to turn their noses up. It is very difficult for someone to slag off a name once it actually belongs to a squidgy newborn.

My Nanna wouldn't say outright that she hated the name but would do a 'look', purse her lips and say 'Oh right'

as a granny myself I can tell you that whatever you choose they will get to love even if they dont think they like it now.

IMHO it depends how much the approval of the GPs means to you. Once our DS was born and we announced his name, both of our mothers expressed their dislike of his name. They had liked my first DC's name and I was hoping for a similar reaction for this one.
I really wish I didn't care what they think, but six months after he was born now I am still kind of wishing we had named him something else

This is so right, older parents, grandparents, great aunts etc have not generally been near a school or playground for decades so what sounds normal and perfectly acceptable to us freaks them out. That is why you must present whatever name YOU have chosen for YOUR child as a surprise fait accompli on the day of birth. They'll be so caught up in the drama that that name will just be associated with that cute little baby, not whatever terrible associations they were imagining.

love that you can't use Elvis because the cockerel got there first!

Neither grandmother will care less what the baby is called once he's here - when they hear the name Bertie they will think of their gorgeous little grandson, not the old blokes they are probably thinking of now!

It might still be a Connie though .

4YO DS goes to Kindy with an Elvis; it's not as out there as you'd think.

I am going to sound devious but will post anyway! To keep the peace say you have decided to call DS something you know they would both like, I.e. Benjamin. Something innocuous. Then once you have been through labour etc. etc. anything goes and just say baby didn't look like a Benjamin. It didn't feel right etc. then say we decided to name him Bertie or whatever name you decide on in the mean time. They will be so overjoyed by new baby, especially as first time grandparents and happy you are both ok that all will be fine. The baby will become his or her name, grandparents will learn to love it and coo constantly over him or her and peace will resume. Devious white lies are best! I have done it twice now!