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Would you use a name your DH didn't like?

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curiousgeorgie · 15/02/2013 09:01

I thought we were 100% set on a name for our DD... Have been since before I was pregnant.

Then last night DH tells me that actually he doesn't like it at all if he's being honest but knows I love it so I can still use it if I want.

What would you do? Not using it feels really sad, but how can I give DD a name her daddy dislikes??!

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diddl · 15/02/2013 12:28

How long has he been telling you that he likes the name when he doesn´t??

Weird!

Can´t help thinking that he does like it really, but isn´t brave enough.

My own Mum told me that she didn´t like PFB´s name-after he was born!!

I told her that I wasn´t asking her opinion-but informing her of her GS´s name!

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curiousgeorgie · 15/02/2013 12:26

It's Seraphina.

I've posted about it before I know, but that's when it was me & DH loving if against the world Wink

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SugarMeFingers · 15/02/2013 11:10

I really loved the name Imogen for my second dd, but DH wasn't overly keen, he didn't hate the name but didn't love it either. He did like the nn Imy tho.
We went with Imogen and he loves it now, he associates the name with her now and it really suits her.
I wouldn't have chosen a name he hated, but to be honest he really isn't bothered with names, he sees the person and thinks the names kind of attaches to them over time!

KirstyoffEastenders · 15/02/2013 11:08

What is the name?

LittleChimneyDroppings · 15/02/2013 11:07

I had the same problem as you with dc2. Dh changed his mind at the last minute, after the name had been agreed for months. I did think about going ahead anyway, but thought it wouldn't be fair, and might also have a negative impact on dh bonding with dc if he hated the name.

Ilovecheeseandlovinglife · 15/02/2013 11:03

Me and hubby agreed on a name then he went off it. He knew how much I loved it and couldn't come up with a better name so we went with it. He loves it now that he has our baby's face to put with it. As far as I'm concerned its you that's carrying the baby and it'll already have his last name so mums should have final say on first name! X

poppydaisy · 15/02/2013 10:05

No, I don't think you should name your dd a name that you don't BOTH love. Please continue to look - there must be a name you both like!

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curiousgeorgie · 15/02/2013 09:39

He's changed his mind because we've had a pretty negative reaction to the name from family & friends. He said he didn't care about that, but that the 'last straw' was when his friend at work 'laughed at the name' which I just don't get. It's a little bit unusual but certainly not laughable. Most people on here loved it.

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LalyRawr · 15/02/2013 09:18

My OH & I had a name picked out from the second I found out I was pregnant. I woke him up at 3am when I was 38 weeks sobbing that I hated the name.

Never once did OH expect our baby to still be given that name.

I couldn't imagine having a child with a name I didn't like, wouldn't expect my OH to do just that.

armagh · 15/02/2013 09:15

No. But it would be difficult. Could you use it as a middle name?

TheTiger · 15/02/2013 09:13

No I wouldn't. It's a joint decision. Has he said why he's suddenly changed his mind?

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curiousgeorgie · 15/02/2013 09:11

I wouldn't have considered it at all for all these months except he's been telling me he likes it for a year...

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ladymia · 15/02/2013 09:06

No I would never do this.

SissySpacekAteMyHamster · 15/02/2013 09:05

No I wouldn't, would you be happy if your DH chose a name that you didn't like?

I had a couple of names for my daughter that I loved, but DH didn't like them at all, and so I didn't even contemplate them.

You definitely need to be in agreement on a child's name.

drownangels · 15/02/2013 09:03

No I wouldn't.