Naming new dc after dc that died....

DPs middle name is the name of his older brother who died at birth. I think it's a lovely idea.

No one elses opinion matters. You want to do it, your reasons are understandable and brought about with love, so do it.

I think its a lovely thing to do especially if the name has special meaning to you.

Very normal to do this in previous generations. Why not do it? The baby you lost is a part of your family and always will be. I don't see it as any different from naming them after grandad Fred or what ever.

(what was just a little odd though in my family at the turn of the century recycling names in the same generation that had a " person" attached IYSWIM eg naming a post WW1 baby after a teenage brother who died in the trenches. My dad was named for the baby brother my gran had, who died at age 3 or 4, it didn't bother Dad at all and he always knew about it).

Advice - it feels right to you and many of us have said it's a lovely idea. I think you just need to make it one of those 'known facts' so that the child grows up knowing, not 'finding out' so that it's something 'good' and something the child can be proud of.

I think it's fine to use as a middle name but not a first name. My parents did that with my sister and she hates it. Messed her up for a whle.

OP said she lost her baby early in PG no one except DH and her knew the babies name. No reason at all the child should ever know it was going to be the first child's name.

I don't even know if OP would tell the baby it should have had a sibling.

We've done this - we had a stillborn baby boy called John, and when we had another son a year later, we gave him John as his middle name. He's 9 now, and he's very proud of the fact that he was named for his brother. Congratulations on your pregnancy!

My DS who is 11 has his brothers name as a middle name, he never 'found out' as such, he just always knew about his name, his brother, and why thats his middle name and he loves it, he says it makes him feel closer to the brother he never met. Its not weird at all.

I think that's party the issue though - as long as the child doesn't 'find out' but knows since, well, forever then it's not a problem.

If all of your children have middle names, that are family names and mean something, then I think this is lovely. I'd probably say 'not a great idea' if your other children just had random middle names - that might feel a bit like burdening this one.

I had two miscarriages in early pregnancy. Didn't know the sexes. It had absolutely no bearing on what we called our full-term children. We had planned which names we liked and we used them. Just because we lost two early on didn't mean we felt we had to relinquish the names we liked. It's different if the children had been born and we'd named them and had spoken to them using those names, but we did not attribute the names to the 'bump' so felt we could use them for our children that survived. I had no qualms.

Tbh, i wouldnt... If the child was me, and i found out my middle name was my sibling that had passed away , i would find it abit weird...

Its completely up to u.. Everyones view will be different

I don't think it's weird at all. I think it's a lovely thing to do in your dc memory. I think it's only a problem if your new dc is made to feel that he is living in his older siblings shadow. You are keeping with your tradition of choosing middle names after family members. I would do what you want and if others find it strange it's their problem. Congratulations, by the way!

Sorry for your earlier loss, and congratulations on your new pregnancy!

I think it depends how you play it - "this is a name we really liked when I was pg with the baby we sadly lost" is a bit different from "I am naming my take-home baby after his dead sibling" even though it comes to the same thing.

Fwiw I am still interested in the same girl names for hypothetical dc3 as I was for DS1, mmc and DS2. It only proves your taste in names hasn't really changed.

I dont think so I personally think it lovely, a nice way to remember the child you lost x