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Did you chose a name you like but don't love? How did you feel?

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megaclock · 28/11/2012 10:31

If so, did you get used to it quickly or did it take time or are you still a little unhappy with it? DH and I couldn't agree on a girls name and there were last name issues so our baby girls name is a compromise.

It's a name I like, it sounds pretty and people generally think its a nice name but its not the one of the ones I really wanted. I have no intention of changing it as it's not that I dislike it, it just isn't the one.

We've made our decision though which is a triumph in itself but it still feels odd and I feel :( Has anyone else felt like this or am I on my own? (sits here imagining everyone else loves their DCs names ....) Is it ok to have chosen a name thats not top of your list?

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MoetEtPantsOn · 28/11/2012 11:08

Through both pregnancies I had names which I loved. DH wouldn't engage with the decision making process until near the end. Both times he vetoed the names I was really set on and I had to go through a few days "mourning" for the names. The second baby's name is his choice. He knew that I didn't love it and really appreciated my compromise.

Now I do love it. It's her name and I also love some of the short forms that I thought were my main reasons for objecting.

aimingtobeaperfectionist · 28/11/2012 11:02

I had a name chosen the whole way through my pregnancy and I loved it. Then contractions started and for some crazy hormonal reason I told DP he could choose the name?! Confused
DD's name is lovely and her DF chose it so that's a nice story for her but I wish I'd called her the name I'd chosen.
If we have another I'm choosing the name.

ditzydrawers · 28/11/2012 10:47

I think it's probably totally normal. Most people I have spoken to about it say it was hard to find a name they both agreed on.

I loved the name Eva but my DH wanted something more unusual. It felt really sad letting go of the name I adored.

But when he did eventually go for one of my suggestions, which had in hindsight always been at the back of my mind, it felt like a triumph too, just as you describe!

And I love that name more than anything in the world now because it is our DD's name.

But I do feel fleeting sadness whenever I meet babies called Eva. One of my best mates had just had one...it was actually a compromise for her as her DH hated her first choice!

Naming children is an odd thing and I think it takes a while to adjust to whatever you choose.

I am sure your choice is the right one.

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