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Am I setting my daughter up for a lifetime of teasing?!

93 replies

unsurealways · 03/10/2012 11:19

Hello. Long time lurker, first time poster.
My first child is due imminently. I have a list of names that i'm taking to the hospital with me, and I love them all equally. I'm hoping that once she arrives she just 'IS' one of the names as that would make my life so much easier lol.

I'm a bit worried that my taste is a bit ... out there. I love all my names, and think they all suit what a daughter of mine would probably grow up to be. But I wouldn't want her to be bullied for being to weird or poncy sounding.

So here's the list. I'm after honest opinions on whether these names sound weird, poncy etc. Which is nicest/most accessible and which you prefer.

Indigo Iris Bloom - Indie.
Lilith Emmanuella - Lily, but only Lilith at home.
Raphaela Marina - Raffie.
Sabine Allegra June - I love both sa-BEAN and sa-been-eh pronounciations, and am still unsure which I love the most.
Salome Willow - May.
Calliope Saoirse - Callie. (kal-eye-oh-pee / seer-sha)
Persephone Joy - Effie.

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PoppyAmex · 03/10/2012 22:28

These names are unusual understated and lovely. I love them all. Ignore the cunts on here and go with your heart

Understated, really? Grin

OP, I think some of the names are nice individually - the combinations are just a little bit "try hard". Having said that, she'll probably only use the first name anyway.

Hulababy · 03/10/2012 22:26

I'm up north in Yorkshire too and hey don't sound too out there to me.

Lots of people will know Persephone I reckon. Was a character on Holby City with he name in too long ago too, although nn was penny. Much prefer Effie though

Hulababy · 03/10/2012 22:20

My favourite is Personphone with nn effie. Lovely

cory · 03/10/2012 22:20

the expression 'an Indigo child' is used by certain types of parents of a child that is considered so special and "spiritually mature" that it cannot be bound by the rules that apply to other children (=what the rest of us define as a spoilt brat). So I would never use that as a name, for fear of the other parents thinking that's what I'm trying to say.

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Indigo_children

TheBuskersDog · 03/10/2012 22:18

Indigo sounds like a boy's name to me, probably because it sounds like Inigo. Sorry I can't understand why if you want to call your daughter May you wouldn't register her as May, rather than Salome.
I think Iris and Willow are pretty names, but as another poster said some of the names do sound a bit 'try hard'.

LoveYouForeverMyBaby · 03/10/2012 21:54

Indigo is the only name I like. Sorry. Find the rest a bit too try hard and terribly terribly.

TaperJeanGirl · 03/10/2012 21:49

I think we have similar tastes, I have used 2 names from your list for dd3, and another of your names was very nearly my dd2s name, I live in poncetastic shoreditch, nobody has ever openly teased any of my kids for their names that I know of, and tbh I know kids with far more unusual names, from your list I LOVE Raphaela Marina, Raffie is so sweet Smile

vamosbebe · 03/10/2012 21:15

Does anyone actually get teased for their name? I've never come across that in my short 37 years - and my older sister has a humdinger!!

Size, height, hair colour, glasses, accent, "your daddy's not in the 'right' military service(ie he's not a marine!), lack of coordination, shyness...... lots of these I've had or been witness to with teasing, but nothing to do with names!

kerala · 03/10/2012 18:41

Last 2 tip into abit too out there for me like the others except Lily. There are LOADS of Lilys its become quite run of the mill so if this bothers you would avoid any name that will end up with Lily as a nickname. Also second the 2 middle names - we did this with DD1 and have regretted it have quietly dropped one of the middle names as it didnt fit on forms and frankly middle names are pretty pointless anyway there is no upside to having two.

unsurealways · 03/10/2012 18:18

*don't influence, that should read sorry.

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unsurealways · 03/10/2012 17:53

Thanks for all the replies, it's really been very helpful.

For whoever has mentioned it, I am aware of the dark backstories of some of these names, just so you know. I just don't really care. If a name is beautiful I like it, regardless of whoever has worn it first.

I'm not down south. I live in a working town in between Manchester and Liverpool. I'm not posh or rich or middle class either. I was raised on an estate - this has been mentioned in previous posts, So I just thought i'd fill you all in on the details and see if it made a difference in your opinions of the names. I no longer live on the estate, but I do still live in the same town and have family and friends still on the estates.

The nicknames aren't me trying to prescribe nicknames either. They'd be my preferred nicknames, for family use, but I realise I influence what anybody else uses.

Anyway, as I said, thank you very much for all the input. I appreciate the help and you've definitely given me food for thought. Maybe now that you know my circumstances you'll understand why I asked about the names sounding weird. I don't live in a bohemian place, or have bohemian friends. But I am pretty 'hippy' myself.

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Stateofplay · 03/10/2012 14:59

I like Sabine best. Calliope sounds a bit like a medical instrument, I think. I also like Allegra and Saoirse as possible first names.

To be honest, I don't really pay much attention to middle names - in my book they're for continuing family traditions and honouring family members/friends. But that's just me!

LuellaLovesLavender · 03/10/2012 14:41

Oh my gosh you have fabulous taste.....it's so hard to choose! I don't think she would have any teasing problems if anything her classmates would be jealous! The only one I really dislike would be Raphaela! And would suggest changing Indigo to India! If I was to make my own combination out of your list I would go for Persephone Iris......just beautiful!

RosannaBanana · 03/10/2012 14:19

I like them. Maybe it would be helpful to look into their meanings/stories and see if one or two particularly appeals (if you haven't done that already).

FWIW Salome is a very negative character in the Bible - hence the name remaining largely unused. Persephone means 'destruction'. Lilith is a demon. Raphael is an angel of healing so Raphaela has a nice meaning/association. Etc! You might not care about meanings etc but if you do...

Also I agree that she will probably look more like some names than others. Good luck and congrats!

LemonBreeland · 03/10/2012 14:08

I like them all apart from Salome and Lilith. Only like Sabean, not sabina.

DessieLou · 03/10/2012 14:03

Not so keen on Calliope as it sounds a bit ugly to me. Also don't really like Salome but love all the others. Good luck in making your choice. Kids tend not to have negative perceptions when it comes to names (adults are the judgmental ones, and who cares what they think!) so I wouldn't worry too much about bullying. Smile

annasophia · 03/10/2012 13:49

Love them all - my favourites are Raphaela and Persephone.

I'm least keen on Lily (too popular) / Lillith (not very feminine imo).

Why on earth would such names be teased? They're lovely, elegant names!

BoyMeetsWorld · 03/10/2012 13:36

The Indigo of Lillith ones... The others are a little odd. Not 'bad' odd though...

MadBusLady · 03/10/2012 13:33

My favourite poncey names of the moment are Amaryllis and Athenais (with an umlaut on the i, can't work out the shortcut.)

So you're not that poncey. Grin

EugenesAxe · 03/10/2012 13:31

I think all of them are OK TBH and not huge teasing material. I have a few thoughts about some:

Indigo - not sure about a child being a colour - I think India would be nicer.
Salome - lovely name, but she asked for John the Baptist's head on a plate, so that would put me off.
Lilith - Adam's first wife and according to Mrs Beaver one of the Jinn; White Witch overlap. Having said that Lily is ten a penny and it would be nice to have a change. It may just become topical when all the children started reading Narnia.

ShabbyChit · 03/10/2012 13:28

Just to throw my opinions in:

Indigo Iris Bloom - Indigo is ok, a bit too out there for me though! (Iris is lovely though)
Lilith Emmanuella - Love Lillith!
Raphaela Marina - Not sure
Sabine Allegra June - Love both of your pronounciations, and all 3 of these names go nicely together!
Salome Willow - May. sorry dont like but willow is nice
Calliope Saoirse - Callie sorry dont like
Persephone Joy - Effie.sorry dont like

the last 3, to me - look hard to pronounce and spell. I would personally struggle with those!

FunnysInLaJardin · 03/10/2012 13:26

I like all of them. I am poncey. I also know an Effie who lives up north although not a nn for Persephone

Viviennemary · 03/10/2012 13:26

They're all nice names I think apart from Calliope. Haven't even heard that one. Whether or not I'd actually use these. If I lived in Primrose Hill and was an actress or media type I might. If not I wouldn't.

MadBusLady · 03/10/2012 13:23

They are maybe a bit poncier than average - it's whether you can make your mind up to not be self-conscious about that. Because then the child won't be either. I love Lilith and Raphaela from your first names, Emmanuella, Allegra and Willow from the middle names.

The only ones I'd avoid are Indigo (just sounds silly to me, not sure why), Sabine (sounds a bit medical somehow - is it saline I'm thinking of?) and Salome (bad association - but then other people have a bad association with Lilith). I'm also not keen on using Irish names unless you are Irish, though obviously there is a bit of a blurry line there.

pourquoimoi I thought that was how it was pronounced? Agree though, Sally is far more obvious than May as a nickname to me.

DontmindifIdo · 03/10/2012 13:21

I really like Lilith, but different middle name.