cousins with the same name??

I know of cousins who are Mathew and Matthew.
Same surname.
Used to live next door to each other.

We just picked another name.

It used to happen a lot years ago when people used to choose from a smaller selection of names. I have 4 brothers and two sisters so admittedly my parents had used up a LOT of names! On my mums side - he sister called her two boys the same as two of my brothers and an Uncle called his daughter the same as one of my sisters. Then on my Dads side his brother called his son the same as one of my brothers (one of the names already copied) and his daughter the same as my other sister. No-one batted an eyelid!

Anyone who has done a bit of nosing around family history will know that it used to be the norm for names to be repeated in families. I don't understand why nowadays everyone gets so distraught about people using the same names. It used to be seen as a compliment, not a crime.

In my husbands family there's lily, Layla, leila and lyla. All born 2010. Madness as all the same name virtually!

Very inconsiderate to the set of grandparents that are going to have two grandchildren with the same name! I'd be embarrassed about my son/daughter's lack of thought there.

I think you should pick something else, simply because I would want my daughters name to be unique and not to be confused with her cousin.

DSIL really threw a strop when we announced the arrival of DS2. She had apparently wanted that name if she ever had a son. At the time she was single and didn't even have a boyfriend but expected us to change DS2s name so that she could use it if she ever had a baby.

Don't use the same /similar name.

I had a very similar situation as both my sister and my sister-in-law used the only girl's names I loved (I had a son first and had loads of "spare" boys names)..to be fair sister-in-law didn't know...sister did - long story! We decided that we wouldn't use the same names as either of my nieces even though sis/sis-in-law actually didn't care.. There was only one other girl's name that we would consider and tbh I refused to find another name that I didn't like as much so we went for this name, having checked with close family as it's my sister's name!! We figured that there would be less confusion as a different generation and also they live on another continent! Am so pleased we went with it as it is by far my favourite girl's name. To avoid confusion my immediate family use a nickname (which we also love) when referring to her but in this country and with everyone else she is known by her full name...

Is there another name you like that you felt previously was off limits like I did with my sister's name?

If you do decide to go with the same name I would definitely run it past them. I would be royally p*ssed off if it happened to me as they didn't know it was your favourite name when they chose it! My niece is Amelia but has only ever been called Millie since about 2 months old. Most people don't even know her "real" name. If they do the same with their Amelia then I don't see a problem unless you want the same nickname!!

My family has three sets of cousins where two of the siblings have the same names ie: three sets of cousins called Peter and Paul. It's very confusing anfms rather dull (my sibling set don't have these names ).

tidybooks if you've always referred to your future DD by this name and they were aware it then I would call your DC it. They were the ones who copied you regardless if the named first, if they find it awkward tough they can change the name. I'd let them know ASAP you'll be sticking with the name.

I had the same first name and surname as a first cousin. I'm younger than her. I really loved it as a child. So I would say go for it. We were known as big xxx and little xxx.

Amelia and Amelie are too similar for cousins in my opinion.

It encroaches too much on your in-laws' choice and is not unique enough for the two cousins.

I would be royally pissed off if my siblings chose such a similar name to my recently named daughter.

Choose a different name.

Dh and his cousin have the same name. I don't think it bothers either of them.

Ds2's first name is his cousin's middle name.

I have a cousin with the same first name as me & it has never bothered me....I think my mum was a bit when my auntie anounced she was using it, but I always liked the fact we had the same name (our last names are different though as she's a cousin on my mum's side...might be wierder if she was a cousin on my dad's side so same first name and last name).

Also my husband is not English and in his culture the done thing is to name your first son after the grandfather, so he has about 7 cousins all with the same first name.....it gets very confusing at family events

I guess as others have said it all depends on how often your kids will see each other, and how pee'd off you think your sister would be if you used the name.

Doris: was that you I saw with your granddaughters in the park the other day?
Gladys: yes, they both came out with us
Doris: Remind me what their names are?
Gladys: Isabel
Doris: Isabel?
Gladys: Isabel
Doris: and the younger one?
Gladys: Isobelle
Doris:

I've been in the park with a grandmother and her two nieces, Leah and Laya - cousins, it was just daft.

Could you combine the first name and middle name for your DD to make it different e.g. if their DD is Amelia and your DD is Amelie-Rose then they sound and look different. You can just shorten in to Amelie for day to day use.

I think if you do use it you'll have to put up with everyone calling her the wrong version.

Did you want Amelie or Amelia?
Amelia --> Amy (v similar sounding)
Amelie --> Emily (again similar sounding)

Or just look up baby names on here

Just as a matter of interest, how would you feel if they had had a boy and used one of your sons' names.

Would you have minded.

I think the main problem isn't even the name, it's the fact that they will be so close together in age. If their dd was, say, ten, you could call a baby after her, but two babies, with the same name, only a month apart in age is confusing.

Of course, they don't own it, and you can use it, and they might be fine with it. But it's a risk.

My family and the cousins (between 1st and 2nd) all share names, loads of 'em. But I mean loads - we have about 50 first and second cousins, so have two or three with the same name isn't a big deal.

A few of my nephews have the same name as DS1- but it's really popular plus it's a family name.

I do think you'd need to run it past them first if you really love it.

My sister gave her DS2 the same middle name as my DS, there is only 14 months between them and it really pissed me off. She didn't even discuss it with me, just announced it on Facebook She then claimed she'd forgotten my DS already had this as a middle name! Nearly two years later it still gets on my tits - that was just a middle name.

Don't do it. She will hate you forever. Choose a new lovely name.

You need to at least give them a heads up. They did not know it was your favourite name to be fair to them!

Telling them by text is a bit rude. I'd say we've loved name a for years I can't choose another sorry.

They might be ok with it.

My daughter is called Abby. My cousin then named her daughter Abbie.

It's not ok.

My second cousin has the same name as me. If anything, it made us feel special.

Part of the family refers to me by my middle name (equivalent to calling me Horatia Mary and her Horatia Louise) but that's it.

George Foreman's sons are all called George Foreman (GF II, GF III, etc).

i have cousins with v similar names - male and female versions of the same name.

they both use the same shortened version and it did get a bit confusing tbh. but as far as i am aware there was never any bad feeling about it.

if you decide to go for it you should definitely ask your dbro first, rather than just announcing it.