cousins with the same name??

In 6 male cousins we have 2 Richards and 2 Christophers. No-one made a fuss and its never been confusing. The Richards are known by their middle names as well, and the Chrises are big Chris and little Chris.

I have this trouble but I stupidly told sil I liked the name max and now it's her favourite and she's due months before me, we can't think of any others we agree on. Just going to have to hope she decides against it.

oh old thread. what did the op do?

NO. I'd feel sorry for the grandparents having to say 'no not my first granddaughter Ellen, my other granddaughter Ellen'. I'd feel like my grown up children had no common sense, sensitivity or courtesy to me if I had to show my friends at bridge pictures of my granddaughters ellen and ellen. morto.

If a family member is selfish enough to use the name that you have already said you love, then why cant you use it? If someone had said to me how much they love a name for years, (and didnt say at that time, yeah thats the name I would use too) I wouldnt then go and use it as I would know how much that person loved it, I would think of my own name, but she hasnt done that. So now you have to? Hmmm.

I think that going through life always thinking that I wanted that name would be very frustrating.

Of course everyone is entitled to their own opinion, some families are much closer than others, however some only see each other at christmas and dont even live in the same part of the country so I dont see that as an issue.

However if you are a close family and see each other regularly then I would think maybe talking to them about it?

No friend would stop me using it but I ha r always thought if my bro used a name then it would be taken out of circulation. In fact our dd's name is a family one and I know he would have probably liked it as a middle name if he had dd but we got there first (and used it as first name) and it's now out of circulation just as his son's name is. He was nice about it and just said that he's pleased it's being used in the family. Besides I suspect his wife not so keen on it.

My cousin and I both gave our daughters the same first name, but different middle names, and if it gets confusing we use the middle names to differentiate. There's six months between the girls. But in reality, it doesn't. Talk to your brother and ask if he minds if you're really dead set on it, and go from there maybe..

My brother in law apparently wanted to name my neice the same name as my daughter, her cousin ok to be fair he wanted to name her that but double barrel it with another name Still the same fucking name though, eh?

I was raging when I found out. Well annoyed at least. I would have been raging if my sister had gone along with this. Mainly because it would be ridiculous and laughable. But also because what child (or anybody) wants to go through life being called "The other XXXX" by their own extended family?

Thankfully sister won that battle (god I love her!) and named her DD something totally different to mine

I think to give an identical name would be an absolute no no, irrespective of how gutting for you (I would feel the same).

Amelia and Amelie are, IMO, totally different names. I'd say go ahead with Amelie

I'm sorry I haven't read all the replies, so potentially a major x-post. There is a name I have loved since childhood and still do, luckily DH also likes it. When my SIL was pregnant they announced they were using that name if it was a boy. That was it, no discussion, they were using it. They knew it was my favourite name as we had discussed names a few months beforehand (before we knew they were pg). DH and I resolved that even if they used the name, we still would. It would be our child, we would be using the name daily - I think we should be able to use a name we love.

The grandparents are very smart people, I'm sure they will work it out!

Anyone mentioned Anneliese as an alternative?

Oooh if you like Amelie I think Coralie is much lovelier (I also really love alliterative names...) here are a few others just to get you thinking

Coralie
Aurelie/Aurelia
Malia
Cecilia

Think you've made the right decision OP.

" at the end of the day you should think of your family unit,"

Yeah, fuck the rest of your family.

Just do what you want.

Remember that "getting used to it" might include getting used to the face that you are a selfish arsehole they don't want to spend time with.

I absolutely think that you can use the name that you wanted, you have loved the name for ages its not like you have copied them in wanting it (seems to me that she has copied you as you loved it for so long).

No I would definatly go with the name you want, at the end of the day you should think of your family unit, yes they will be annoyed at first, but they will get used to it and it wont be an issue anymore. Some Cousins as they grow older dont really see each other, would yours be like that?

I would let her know by text after you have had the baby just like she did

My boy whos now 8 is named Finn, my aunty had a baby who is now 4 and she called him Finn too?! thought it was a bit strange TBH and my nan wasn't best pleased...........

Depends how close you are - how often you see each other and how much confusion it would cause. And to some extent on the personalities involved. It used to be very common for cousins in the same geographical location to have the same first and surname (and presumably they all coped), but now it is rare.

We chose the same (nearly) first name for one of our boys as their cousin on DH's side - different surnames and live at different ends of the country. It was also a traditional family name on my side that we have previously told the other family that we would use if we ever had a son (they later used it for one of theirs). We ummed and ahhed for a long time, and finally went with it for one of ours (we ended up with lots of boys and really struggled with boy names - could have agreed on masses of girl names !) - and the other parents then threw a major hissy fit that took quite a few years to wear off (has mostly gone now a decade later).

So just be aware that it might ruffle feathers and be prepared for that.

Bottom line though - no-one owns a name - anyone can call their kids (or their pets) any name they choose - regardless of anyone else.

I think you have come to a good decision tidybooks, within the family my cousin was always known as "the other ***", which must have been horrid for her.
Also, Amelie could be over popular ATM.

I still want to know

Go on, pm me and I'll suggest some middle names.

What are your mums and granny's names?

btw, I don't like Amelie, and Amelia has been taken over by Dr Who and will always be Amelia Pond, so better avoided imo.

Good luck! Glad you've found something you like too.

Anything 'FC' sounds like a football club

Good luck tidybrooks

Come on now, tell us the name, and we will all tell you how much nicer than Amelie it is

I can only think of Katie.

You need to avoid KFC as well, btw.

Thanks for the advice!

Here's my top tip for you, read the post before giving your advice. Then you may avoid looking so foolish.

You're welcome