Do you tell people your names choices IRL?

I just kept saying "weve got a few ideas, will wait and see what they look like" and if they pressed for an actual.name, id give them one or two off the bottom of the list.

Don't. Unless it's someone whose opinion you genuinely want.

Everyone will comment and they will not hold back if there is no baby to attach it to .

No - do not tell anyone , for all the reasons above.

We gave both our DC joke names. People did genuinely believe this was what we were planning and looked suitably bemused.

Actually think I would use one of the names if I were to have another

We always say we haven't agreed yet, or maybe say one we really considered but discounted.

No, despite my Mum trying hard with each of my three to find out. I did not want her opinion so I would not tell her. Everyone got told the name when they were born.

We have our girl name as sil was pregnant too and if she'd used it I'd have been extremely upset as its my late Grandmas name. I got in a stupid pregnant stress about it, so dp basically asked her if she thought of any names she said yes he said were using Lily if its a girl, so if you do aswell there will be two.

Sounds precious maybe but my Grandma was exceptionally important to me.

No, don't tell people! So much nicer to tell people once baby has arrived.

Absolutely not! everyone will have an opinion. Better to name the baby because people can't say much then (to your face). If you really need an opinion better to post on here :)

I Learnt the hard way the first 2 times do we told nobody when we had dc 3. We just reeled Off a few names from the top 10 if anybody asked. We actually told the inlaws some names so that dc initials spelt BUM! We used Barnaby Ulysses. The name we chose was actually nothing like that but was quite fun to see their faces!

Everyone asks but i haven't told anyone despite longing to discuss it - sometimes people will go on to discuss names generally during which conversation they might pick up a few names we've considered but discounted - this seems to please as they then at least know the styles you're thinking of.

Unfortunately in one such conversation their first response to not being able to know was to say:
'well as long as you don't call it ' which, amazingly, was precisely the name we'd chosen. they then went on to share a rant about how awful that name was. so much so we had to have a rethink - they'll be gutted when they hear it as the middle name if it's a boy!

We did, after about 20w or so when we knew it was a girl, and also when we knew that if anything bad happened the baby would still be called that name. But we were very, very certain on the name. We didn't have any negative responses, but then its quite a 'normal' name so it was unlikely anyone would react badly to it. And I'm also utterly useless at keeping a secret...

i was pretty open about our name choices, we told our NCT group we were expecting a girl, and we were going to call her either Sophie or Jessica. When DD turned up she looked like neither of those names.. and i now can't believe how dumb i was to think that you can pick a name before you've met the baby ;-)
she's now called a different name entirely!
i think people assume their child's name is actually important to other people, when normally they're just asking to seem interested.. they're just making conversation - they dont actually care!

I did with DD1 and regretted it, now I tell everyone never to divulge your name choices especially with close family, you will get the looks and wrinkled up faces!

I've heard of people change their chosen name as Granny said she hated it and would refuse to call the baby it! Better to decide between yourselves then when the baby is born announce their name, then no one can comment (well they can but that's their name).

Absolutely not, particularly family. Or say something flippant (dh told everyone that ds2 was going to be called Lancelot).

Dh told everyone we were going to call LO 'Glum'. It's an Icelandic name. I called him Squid.

We only told close family the boys name we had chosen, and were still discussing girls name right up until the birth.

I tell people we want to meet her first before we decide. Which is true - we do have a few we like, though. The only person I've actually shared those names with is my sister.

I won't tell anyone (due in 3 weeks), I just say that we have a top girls and a top boys name but we aren't telling until they arrive. I know there will be some family members that dislike mine and my husband's choices so it doesn't give them a chance to whinge!